Why does my dad hates me so much?
when i was younger . he used to beat me up over small things.now even when i'm 25. there is no more physical abuse but more of emotional abuse. i really cant take it anymore. now i try to avoid him he still try to find ways to pick on every little thing i do.from what i wear basically everything. he always calls me stupid fat pig. he even accused me of smoking/drugs/a **** but the funny thing is that i did not touch all those things. and i dont wear like a ****/i dont date around much/ i never smoke/i never drink. and i did study up to university level. i mean comparing with my other siblings. they were school dropouts smoke etc and i;m the one who gets blame for everything. sometimes i wonder why does he hates me so much . and yes i have hated him very much too . i thgt by minimising communication. we can sort of work things out .. at least he dont get angry when he sees me.
2006-12-29 04:29:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
;m so tired of all this . don't even ask me to talk to my mom. i talk to her before she said stop giving her alot of problems. i was like i'm a problem??? my dad always says i am always the one to wreck our family.. i mean sometimes i dont even know what did i do .. keeping quiet is wrong.. talking back is wrong.. mabye i should just die and nobody even cares.. dont ask me to move out. if i move out he will accuse me of being an arrogant b%^$% .(our culture do not permit unmarried women to live on their own) i;m just waiting for the day that he will chase me out so that i have a reason to leave because he asked me to leave .. anyone what should i do... or opinion plz.. i really am suffering... not physically but emotional .. one day i can just die .. thats why i never trusted men .. any dads around or anyone. plz help
2006-12-29 04:34:25 · update #1
i have no intention of turning lesbian.
2006-12-29 04:35:35 · update #2
i mean i never did all those things and he hated me . but he is so close to my other siblings even listen to them as if i'm the bad egg.. i tried to be nice but it does not work out..
2006-12-29 04:37:28 · update #3
partly i;m afraid that the man i;m going to marry .. that is if will turn out to be like my dad
2006-12-29 04:46:53 · update #4
Hit him over the head with a blackjack. Then chop up his body into chunks and run them through a meat grinder. Then package the ground beef and give it to homeless shelters so they can feed the poor.
2006-12-29 04:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My parents do not hate me. Although they always defend my other siblings for whatever they may be doing like drugs. I do not and have never been involved w/ drugs or other things of the sort. I am a mother of two and feel I do a good job. My siblings have kids and none live with them they all live with grandparents and me. I always tell them how much they are screwing up their lives and my niece and nephews. My parents tell me I am a B**** and I should keep my mouth shut. It really hurts me because they will not stand up to them. I think it reminds them of what failures they were as parents, and it is hard to face the truth about yourself. Though the verbal abuse your father expresses is unnecessary, you should talk to him and tell him if he can not respect you then you will no longer have a relationship with him. If you are smoking, drinking or whatever you seem to be old enough to make your own choices. Has he never drank or smoked before. We all make mistakes it does not make you less of a person. Be strong and know that there are plenty of other people who love and respect you. Just be the best person you can be for yourself, not anyone else. If you are always trying to gain acceptance from your Dad then it leaves no time to except yourself. If you worry about pleasing everyone else you will never be happy. Good luck and God speed!
2006-12-29 04:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by cherristee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all men are the same. It depends on your dad's background. Maybe he was verbally abused as a kid and always told he would amount to nothing. Either way you have nothing to prove to him and he is totally out of line in saying those things to you. If you are nothing like your siblings then it is up to him to see that because obviously he believes what he wants to believe. Unfortunately he does not realize the hurt this causes inside. When he gets older and finds himself alone, and has all kinds of time to think, then he will realize he was wrong but by then it will be too late as you will have moved on with your life. He will prolly beg for forgiveness and that is entirely up to you. Dont ever believe any of his belittling comments. You know he is wrong so be proud of who you are.
2006-12-29 04:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to go to therapy to help you work on some of your issues. Not every guy is the same. Sure there are alot of jerks out there but there are some nice guys as well. Hopefully one day you will see that. You just need to get some help for your issues and build up your self esteem.
2006-12-29 04:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does you having an abusive father mean that all men are the same? I have a wife and two daughters that I never abuse. Sounds to me like you are just looking for an excuse to turn lesbian.
2006-12-29 04:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by trovanhawk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, all men aren't like that and you cannot control what he does-but you can control what you do-stay away unless he wants to be nice...we do teach people how thay can treat us. Tons of good guys out there-you don't have to put up with the jerks-dad or not.
2006-12-29 04:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by Middleclassandnotquiet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many things but one perhaps could be because you ARE the one who went through school, never did the drugs and so on whereas your sibblings did these things.....It could be a mixture of frustration from your dad as well as jealousy. Its sad that these happened to you
2006-12-29 04:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a father i can not imagine ever doing what he has done --- he is a stupid abusive person
im sorry forget your culture if they done like it stick it -- move out find a life outside your family and if you cant do that move to another country to work/study
2006-12-29 04:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let this loser taint your feelings for a real man. believe me, your father is your dad by birth only, not in any other way that matters.
avoid him at all costs, you don't owe him anything at all!
2006-12-29 04:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by City slicker 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ur rite but i never got beat up by my dad.
2006-12-29 04:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋