How come simple child abuse gets reported, but huge bruises are ignored?

Question

I mean think about it. Some people are arrested for spanking their child. Others get away with beating their child day and night.

Is anyone else furious at this?

Answer 1

Sadly, in child abuse, as well as in spousal or elder abuse, some of the worst abusers are also the most skillful at convincing their victims to cooperate in hiding the abuse. The child may hide his bruises or claim he got injured by falling off his bike. It is difficult for a child to report a parent, even if the parent is not worthy of the title. Even those who suspect the child is lying may be unwilling to report abuse if they have no evidence. Sadly, even when abuse is reported and children are taken from their parents. some of them find more abuse or neglect when they get into the foster care system. It is truly sad that there is so much evil in the world, and there is nothing more evil than a person who will prey on a child. We all need to stay alert to the situations around us and we must be courageous enough to take action when it is needed.

Answer 2

I can do you three better. Here in Texas THREE kids have died in foster care in the last few months alone and Child Protective Services (CPS) could have kept them with their original parents and just checked in on them. Which they were not doing either. In every case, the foster brother was jealous of the foster child and killed him or her. Kids killing kids over really what amounts to a check every month for the foster kids to get the things they need.

It is really a matter of who is reporting it. Some people are more sensitive than others thus will call and report it all. And there is nothing wrong with that. Then you have some people who know kids are being abused and do absolutely nothing about it until the child comes up dead then they want to be all on the news talking bad about the parents when they could have made a phone call to prevent it from happening.

It is said it is due to a disassociation to violence and things now, but in my eyes, no matter what a kids does, abusing them is not the answer. Spanking, I do condone. Beating, I do not.

Answer 3

It is sad, in our county DCFS will tell the parents it's ok to hit the child with anything as long as they only do it once and don't leave a bruise, and then tell the child they deserved it. I've seen this personally, i was the child then and I know a child now that was told the same thing, 15 years later. If the child is a problem child, they usually don't do anything about it b/c it'd be harder to find a foster home. My husband and I talked about becoming foster parents but the way its set up right now, the kids in the system usually don't need to be, it's the ones forgoten that need our help.

Answer 4

i was abused as a child so i think i may be able to answer your question. The evidence of massive abuse, or neglect IS often ignored. At times, people are unwilling to believe that it could actually be happening, especially with that specific child or adult. In my case, i was put into foster care, and eventually adopted. My biological mother ( the abuser) was sentenced to parenting classes she never attended. She was mentally ill, and a drug and alcohol addict. There is really no way to analyze the justice system...especially family court. That is part if the reason I am currently in school to be a child defense attorney. I want to change the very thing you asked about.

It is an unfair circumstance, but one that exists just the same.

Answer 5

you probably did the main concepts-blowing factor - the youngster centers workers have dealt with distinctive abused toddlers before, and that they are able to tell the style between a new child who's have been given bruises everywhere reason they have been hit and a new child who's have been given bruises from the varieties of falls and injuries that youngsters oftentimes get. From what i be attentive to of this concern, toddlers (fantastically toddlers who're sufficiently old to stroll) infrequently get bruises in the places you have suggested, so as that on my own (and fantastically blaming it on 'a fall', it extremely is the #a million commonest excuse abusers use) will enhance pink flags, so which you have been incredibly actual to call and checklist the mothers and fathers.

Answer 6

I have two kids , and yes they need a spanking once in awhile . But child abuse is different .. when you spank a child you do not leave bruises , there is such a fine line between them ,, I do think that they go over board with it , ya there are case where you know it is abuse and no thing is done . I have a freind that pulled a knife out of her daughters hand and the daughter called the cops and they were going to charge the mother with abuse .. the system is so messed up .

Answer 7

It is all in the person reporting. Many people feel that the way a parent is handling a child is none of their business and in most cases it is not. But there the few that do need attention, but nobody wants to call it out. Then you have the people who think spanking is a crime and are to busy trying to tell people how they should be parenting their children that they miss the child that really need help.

If people just mind their own business, allow parents to spank their children if necessary, then we could all be watching for the signs of true abuse.

Answer 8

Because CPS is run by a bunch of idiots. Good families are destroyed by CPS.

We have some friends that had a noisey neighbor that heard them yelling at their kids - geeze, big deal, we all do that. The neighbor called CPS and the family had to fight to get their kids back. There was nothing wrong.

CPS can come in, take the kids and then the parents have to prove that they are OK parents. This is a case of you are guilty until you are proven innocent. The problem is, they never believe anyone is a good parent. Everyone is guilty.

Answer 9

Mainly because the courts depend on human witnesses to testify.

Also, generally speaking, the children that are only spanked are adorable children with rich friends, from rich families that the courts can grab a lot of cash from, whereas the children that are beaten into a pulp are generally from poor familes, are considered less "adorable," and don't have any rich friends getting involved, so the courts don't get a lot of cash for prosecuting, and the media doesn't want to show them on TV.

Also, many social workers become jaded, and decide that the children who are so horribly abused will be scarred for life, and come out as virtual retards no matter what happens to them, while the ones that are only slightly injured "still have a chance."

Sick? Sad? Wrong? Most definitely, but I think you're asking the wrong question. It's not a matter of "how come the system is screwed up?" Every society has screwed up systems. The real question is "What are we willing to do about this screwed up system?"

Answer 10

Yes, I am a foster parent and I see a 2 year old that lives across the street from me playing outside in 30 degree weather in just a damn diaper and when I had CPS come and check it out they ignored it. Come On I have the system yet you can turn around and hit parents for neglect for spanking but you can't do anything for the ones who really are being abused.