As long as i can remember i have always been a touchy feely person, and must admit that sometimes when i'm coming across that way to guys some times they can interpret it as flirting, but i am a very tactile person anyway....so i just wonder is it wrong to be this way?
2006-12-29 04:28:23 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's your nature, don't worry about it!
2006-12-29 04:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes and no. Remember most guys are looking for signals and your sending that signal that you like them by being touchy feely. Many guys will take it as a romantic touch because they are not used to touchy feely except with women that want them.
It is great that your touchy feely just be aware your sending confusing signals Hon. In the old days they called that kind of person a "tease" because they acted like they wanted you but didn`t. Very confusing. Even your girlfriends are confused as your hanging on their boyfriend.
There are things you can do. Be touchy feely even more. Make sure you touch everyone when in groups and by seeing that everyone will accept that your just that way. Be less touchy or not at all when alone with only one person or a couple. Don`t be touchy with new members of your group until they are established members.
You will have to come up with another way of letting a person, your romantically incline toward, know you like them. You will have to be the aggressor or just blurt it out because you`ve given up the intimacy of touch.
Good question
2006-12-29 04:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If thats they way that you are then there is nothing wrong. But not all people will know that, so you do have to be careful. Look lets say like you are with a few friends and your best guy friend brings his girlfriend along so you guys are all sitting together chatting, watching tv...whatever right and all of a sudden you start getting all touchy feely with him the first thing thats going to go thorugh her head is "that little b*tch" of course she doesnt know that that is the way that you are so, obviously you are going to look like you want to get with her guy....right?
So, no there is nothing wrong with that but you have to be careful of who is around you and what you do. Some one might take it the wrong way and honestly knowing how we girls are, the guys may like it and not mind at all...but watch out for the females!! Man we can be so judgemental.
Turn that example from above and imagine you see another girl getting touchy feely with your man........how would you take it?
I know that by asking you to be careful and watch what you are doing I am also in a way saying dont be yourself....but you might want to consider the consquences (if any).
2006-12-29 04:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by shygrl52 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the way I feel and only if you are in a relationship with the guy. I am the same way and always have been also. I feel I it a good thing. it comes from the passion I have inside of me and I thrive on it. My only problem is that I have to be in a relationship where I can have it accepted because I love getting it back also. If the guy in my life can't be as affectionate with me I feel empty. I would say that the guys you and I get involved with are pretty lucky to have women like us to show our affection constantly.However there is a down fall. Some men can find it as being smoothered and It pushes them away. That is why I say I want a man who can love it and appreciate and and respect it and not take advantage of me for it.
2006-12-29 04:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with how the other person interprets it and whether you give more than what you initially propose on doing. Do you believe that what you do is just a show of humility or can it be misconstrued as flirting. Next time you are with a guy and become "touchy feely", take a good look at your actions and reverse them, if a guy did that to you, how would you interpret it, as friendly or flirty.
2006-12-29 04:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Enterrador 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say that its a time and place for everything......I think first off you should understand the person who you are touchy feeling with, get to know their personality and vis versa....Once a person understands that you are a touchy feeling type person then they will kind of "overlook" it and will not consider it to be flirting, its just your nature but then if you dont know someone who you all of sudden decide to be touchy feeling with, then they will think you are trying to come on to them.......does this make sense?
So all in all, tone the touching down until you got your personality across to people
2006-12-29 04:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is forward and sends a wrong message as you, yourself, have stated. Many people do not like their private space invaded by strangers or acquaintances of small status. I don't mind touchy-feely from my real friends and do so myself on occasion., I always know the person well enough and am close enough emotionally to know when to and when not to as well as the appropriate time and location for such familiarity.
2006-12-29 04:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Donald W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am the same way, I love the touchy feely thing. Its always been how I am. And yea some do take it as being flirty but most of the time its innocent.
2006-12-29 04:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really like it and it makes me feel more closely connected with a woman who displays attention this way, but some people are put off by an invasion of the personal space, it seems like it depends on what the persons cultural background is, but there are exceptions to every rule.
2006-12-29 04:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to most guys when a girl is "touchy feely" they automatically think that ur hittin on them. atleast that what i was told b/c i used to be very touchy when i drank, but i was giving guys the wrong impression, so now i only touchy the people i want to flirt with.
2006-12-29 04:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by sugar69c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that is female who is very touchy. It sometimes makes me uncomfortable. I don't think my wife would say anything about it, but I imagine what it would be like if some guy were like that with her. I wouldn't like it. So, I try to discourage the friend from getting touchy.
I understand that it is just how she is. That's just how it makes me feel.
2006-12-29 04:35:49 · answer #11 · answered by iknownothing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋