I told a friend of mine what I felt for her. I've kept this for 2 years and I am freaked out a bit because she loves someone else. I am scared of the fact that I would give up everything for nothing so I asked and demanded for answers.. I realized my mistakes and I am scared that she may not talk to me ever again, my chances to be with her is slipping.. I am a wreck without her.. The last thing I wanted to do is to hurt her.. What do I do?
2006-12-29 04:25:44 · 11 answers · asked by jammy_2288 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait it out and be patient. If she is a true friend who cares about you, she'll call when she's reflected on this and is ready to talk with you again.
2006-12-29 04:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to backtrack on feelings. Your heart loves her but she loves someone else. Do you really think you would be happy even if she consented to going back to a friends relationship with you now that you love her and she knows that you love her? The best thing you can do for the both of you at this point is let her go. Any further pursuit will make you look desperate and maybe a little psycho. That would surely turn her away for good. If this woman truly is the love of your life and the two of you are meant to be together then you will...eventually. Maybe the timing just isn't right. I'm more than a little concerned that you feel all of your happiness and your identity is tied to this girl. That doesn't sound healthy at all. Confidence in oneself and the ability to find happiness regardless of circumstances are very appealing characteristics in a person. If you can rise above this situation and be strong maybe she can see that and find a new appreciation and respect for you because of it. For right now though you need to just let her go. You will survive and you will be a better person for it.
2006-12-29 04:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have demanded for answers coz you would have only made her feel even more 'scared' of you..however it is good that u finally told her how you feel and well if she alr loves someone else, then there isnt much u can do unless ur willing to go all out to fight for her..but if the man that she loves is equally in love with her then dont u think u should just accept it and let her go? im sure it must hurt alot having to let her go and not have her love u back, but thts life and its something u have to face. it might take a while, but u should try to get over it....somehow. otherwise u will never be able to move on and let someone else into your life. try to talk to her again and apologize for losing control of urself and talk things through..if u cant be with her, at least still stay as friends and be there for her. u never know how things will work out..so hang in there!
2006-12-29 04:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth about how u feel, but don't go all emo on her b/c ull prolly freak her out and send her running. just try and find out if she has the same feelings. if u guys have been friends for 2 yrs and uve had these feelings the whole time and nothings happened? good luck
2006-12-29 04:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by sugar69c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... That's your consequences.. You ask her for an answer, so it means that you're ready for any answer from her..
About hurting her, if you think about it, then she's not your love of your life.. Because you will never hurt your love of your love.. But you just want to see her happy..
2006-12-29 04:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by v_2002reloaded 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be friend with her, be friends with her, but you are going to have to put your feelings for her aside. she loves someone else. you wanting to be close to her because f your feelings for her isn't good for either one of you. it's not good for her because you are not being a true friend because you have different motives and it's not fair to you because you are investing all your emotional time and energy into someone who may never feel them same way about you.
2006-12-29 04:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, let her go. Love will come back to you. Maybe not her, but love. Read 1Corinthians13. That's love. If you are not loving like this than its lust.
2006-12-29 04:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by LOLO W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.Find someone else.
2006-12-29 04:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a sit down talk...
2006-12-29 04:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be open and honest tell him/her everything
2006-12-29 04:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by aj b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋