I say this because at times one partner seems to give more than the other and then the tables will turn. I don't believe that there has ever been a relationship that has been a total 50/50 split down the middle. And even if there were, it would certainly be boring to be completely equal in every aspect with someone else.
2006-12-29 04:21:47 · 24 answers · asked by WonderTwit 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a good concept but not reality. Reality is that both partners have to give 100% and even at that sometimes you fall short.
2006-12-29 04:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will always feel that one person is giving more than the other.
The reason for this is that one will see that they worked harder than the other to accomplish something.
For instance: He will work really hard and try to plan the perfect evening - dinner, dancing and hotel - the whole 9 yards. -
Then she in return cooks dinner and does a few other things.
Now some would say one or the other is doing far more than the other, however, it is all through perception.
The 50/50 thing - could happen - it is just that we will not be able to see it. As an individual we will precieve something different than someone else.
My advice, if you feel like he/she isn't doing enough. Take a step back and think about how much time, effort, money, and thought went into something. Then come to your conclusion based on that. If he/she isn't doing anything. Don't kill yourself trying to please them, it only ends in hurt.
2006-12-29 04:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by offspringkin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think the concept of a 50/50 relationship is real, atleast on what your thinking - a 50/50 relationship to me is to take a little give a little, everyday will be different some days i will give more then i recieve and other days i will feel down & out & my man will give me so much more - its all about compromise & love, if you want some, give some. it doesnt at all make a relationship boring, if you love someone you what to do whatever you can for them, and assuming they love you to, they would want to do the same, making it in terms a "50/50 relationship"
2006-12-29 04:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when one partner gives more and tables turn and the other gives more is a 50/50 relationship. one gives more when appropriate and the other gives more at another time. it will almost never be 50/50, it should be 100/100 both should give all; all the time.
2006-12-29 04:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Shanan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be virtually impossible for any relationship to be 50/50 all the time...people have strengths and weaknesses so at times the scales will tip more one way or the other, but the goal should be to seek balance and not have one partner always on the high side and one always on the low...
2006-12-29 04:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't think they do. I don't think I always give half to the relationship, and then at time it feels like i'm doing more than my half. It's varies. I don't think it can be 50/50 ALL of the time.No way, sometimes your sick and can't do the things you normally do, your partner is there to either pick up the slack or let it go until your well.
2006-12-29 04:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by TKM2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point of most attractions is that there is a give-take that happens...it's just something natural. A 50/50 relationship is something you have with a roommate that you split the rent with.
2006-12-29 04:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Sometimes the other partner doesn't have 50 to give.(because of other worries and stresses) My marriage is like that at times. We promised for better or worse and I think that means to stand together and give your best when you can and trust your partner for their best when you can't. The common goal is the relationship itself and as long as you are both giving and not taking it will be o.k.
2006-12-29 04:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know, but either way i don't think that 50/50 relationships work. i think that both people should put 70% of themselves and effort into a relationship. make it 70/70. the extra 40% gets lots in the b.s. somewhere ... but if you are both giving that much then i think you end up with a good relationship. 50/50 relationships may exist - but i don't think that's enough
2006-12-29 04:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by sunnyutblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean...I honestly think that the 50/50 term is most like for "give and take"...
You give and take most of the time therfore will be 50/50...
Now if you give more than you take...or vise versa then....it depends on how the couple feels about that.
In my relationship now...I do both....and it wouldn't phase me to just give and give and give as long as I'm happy doing sooo....
What should matter the most is how "you" feel about it. Does it make "you" happy.
2006-12-29 04:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have told me those types should exist, but I agree with you, I don't think my relationships have ever been 50/50, I think sometimes one gives more and then sometimes it changes.
2006-12-29 04:23:26 · answer #11 · answered by Lowa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋