my daughter is in 2nd. year of college. she left to return after 2 weeks at home. my heart is so broken and feel so empty. just can' i keep wondering how will i be able to manage when son leaves in 2 years. those of you who pray, please do so for me. thanxt shake it this time.
2006-12-29 04:08:03 · 4 answers · asked by paula h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi Paula!
Several years ago I was your daughter. My family is from NJ and I went to school in MA. My mom missed me terribly. After graduating I lived in MA but eventually moved back to NJ because it was a comfort zone.
Believe me when I tell you this: this experience will probably be a wonderful one for your daughter. She will learn to be independant and spread her wings. She will probably also realize that her family is the greatest thing in her life and you may find that you have a more rewarding relationship with your adult child than you possibly could have imagined.
She is on her way to fulfilling her life's dreams and even though you will miss her while she is on that journey, please realize that it is the best for her and that she won't forget about you or love you less.
By the way in case you were wondering, my mom is my best friend. Good luck. The pain of being apart will get better.
2006-12-29 04:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not there yet but will be in a few years time. I know I will miss them but I have taken steps already to ensure that when they do leave, my life is full with good friends and things I love to do. I don't know whether you work or not (I do at a job that I thoroughly enjoy) but maybe getting a part-time job, joining groups, clubs, volunteering etc. will give you something to do so that you are not concentrating on the fact that your daughter is not around as much as you would like her to be and then your son in a couple of years time. Keep busy, look at this as a new chapter in your life where you can pursue your dreams and desires. Parenting is a wonderful job but one that is very time consuming. Embrace this new freedom you have. Remember that when one door closes, another one opens
Our kids are not ours to keep. We have to give them wings to fly. They will come back to visit.
Good luck
2006-12-29 12:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be praying for you! I know its hard! But its not so bad when you look at it this way:
She is going to follow through with school (like all parents hope for)
you raised her well and now its her turn to give to the world like you did
You still have a son to raise, he needs you and you need him.
Just keep sending lots of letters to your daughter!
happy new year!
2006-12-29 12:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paula, my heart goes out to you. Though my kids are still very small, this thing also scares me a lot. So I understand your sadness. Please find some activities that can keep you busy, maybe volunteering in children programs such abused kids, disabled kids, etc. That way you'll still be around children.
2006-12-29 12:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋