Question for the women: Do you prefer to be the dominant one in the relationship?

Question

Or do you prefer that your man wear the pants all the time?

I only ask because I wonder what makes us choose the people we do. My sister is a prime example...she always chooses a man whom she can dominate and can never have just one...then she inevitably dumps one for another. She is never alone. I on the other hand have been in a relationship with the same man for almost 9 years.....he's the dominant one but it works for me.

Any thoughts?

Answer 1

This is a tough one. I think a relationship works best when the man is dominant. (Feminists please don't shoot me, I still think women should be able to work and vote.) This only works when the man views his wife/girlfriend as an equal. A body cannot function with two heads but it also shouldn't dismember itself either. I know that my boyfriend loves me and wants to protect me. So he would not make a decision that would be hurtful to me. Men naturally want to protect. I say let them. But that only works when a man truly loves and respects you. I don't think anyone should allow themselves to be run over no matter what gender you are!

Answer 2

Funny but I'm actually very dominant in the relationship if he isn't. I'd rather not be tho. I'll only take over if he doesn't take the lead on something.

I really believe in the differences between men and women. That may not make me very popular. I like being female and I like the man to be the stronger one.

In the bedroom I am totally submissive. I like it that way. Unfortunately many men, with their high power jobs, also want to be submissive when the lights go out. Guess I'm a rather strange bird and the man who wants me is too.

But I can be either way I guess, depending on what the situation calls for. With a real man, I love to fall back and let him take the lead in any situation - just as long as he can be trusted with the lead.

Answer 3

I think traditionally the male is supposed to be the more dominant in the relationship. Relationship seem to work out the best with a responsible man running the family.

Also behind every good man is great woman.

Answer 4

In most relationships I see, the woman is the boss, whether or not that woman says she prefers a dominant man or not.

Answer 5

being dominant USED to be a man's job...but honestly, women today succeeds in something new that men sometimes want to accept or challenge.
-personally i think that a man should be a provider...but a woman could be his partner in that too... if in time the woman succeeds in that more than a man, the ma should support her for her accomplishment,
but
it is not helpful if the woman constantly reminds him of that fact, their ego's are not programmed to always accept dominancy, some might not mind it. but there is nothing more fullfilling for a man than being a man to a house, right?
i don't mind it...but i love to prove myself worthy to be an equal.

Answer 6

Recently I can work with both. I mostly wear the pants but, I like a man who can deal with that and have a sense of humor about it. Like my boyfriend. We take turns...and we laugh about it! LOL

I know what you mean....my sister has never been alone. She's hoped from one guy to another, yet my last "real" relationship was about 3 years ago, and now I just recently got with my boyfriend and I'm loving it.

Answer 7

It can get pretty boring if you're the one wearing the pants all the time. I think whoever you're with, it should be someone who you respect and kinda view as a teammate. Sounds lame but I'd rather be with someone I can rely on when I'm down that someone I always have to pick up and tell what to do.

Answer 8

I feel the relationship should be and equal partnership.. However there will be things that your better at taking the lead in and other things your partner will be better at taking the lead in. It just all depends to on how you both communicate with each other as well. But it should be 50/50 in all relationships.. Just my thoughts

Answer 9

same here. my host sister(exchange student)...one of them seems to have a new boyfriend every other week!!! ...i go for the men being the more dominant ones in a relationship too:D i think the men are usually a lot more mature and make better parents that way too:D

Answer 10

this is a really good question! for me, since i feel like i "dominate" in other areas of my life (i.e., academics, career), i find it a relief to have a man who calls all the shots (okay, most of the shots). i definitely want my man to feel like "the man" in our relationship, but not care that i am very independent (financially, emotionally, etc.) in my own right. this is exactly how my current relationship is, and i'm lovin' it!