i am 17 and i've been gay for 6-7 years and i feel like i don't belong!! i'm in love with a girl, and i love her so much but i can't tell her because i am afraid of how she will react...the thing is ..that i don't have a girlfriend and i really need one or should i say i really want one?! she is younger than me and we have lots of things in commen. i love touching her hand but she doesn't even know how much that means to me. and she touches me back...and i relly like that because it makes me feel great.
will she understand if i tell her the truth? will she love me back thats if she is gay too?( because i don't know, she has something that makes me say that i don't know if she is straight or not)
please excuse my english and hope you understood what i meant to say....i relly love her and she is the only thing i want now!!
thank you so much...
2006-12-29 04:06:43 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i came out when I was 16. My family was fine with it. Most of my friends were OK with it. the REAL friends didnt care, the superficial friends left, but I'm better off without them anyway.
your first step is telling her that you are gay. after that, see how she reacts. if she tells you she isnt, then you should respect that and not hit on her.
2006-12-29 04:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never go wrong with honesty. I came out to my family when I was 23, I've always known I was bisexual since a very young age. My first kiss with a female I was 10/ sexual experience I was 12...I mean...if you really like this girl, tell her. I mean I'm sure she must know...and probably might have the same feelings.
F*^% all those other people that don't approve. U don't need them in you're life anyway!
2006-12-29 04:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother came out and told me he was gay. Alot of people was not friends with him anymore. I am not gonna sugarcoat it some people can be very mean. But his real friends stood behind him. You need to dig down deep and find out who you are as a person first before you jump into a relationship. These things will come with time. Your only 17 you have your whole life ahead of you.
2006-12-29 04:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well you say you dont know if she is gay...well maybe just casually ask her if she is interested in any guys and if she says yes then back off...
if she says no than maybe ask if she is interested in any girls and if she gets blown away just brush it off as a joke and start laughing than you know she wont have a thing for you. But if she says yes than by all means go for it. Tell her though straight up dont beat around the bush, if you know what i mean...
but dont be afraid that you will have no friends b/c if your friends dont appreciate you for who you are than you dont want them as friends.
Just be yourself and dont worry what other people think.
and good luck!
2006-12-29 04:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by iloveDEREKJETER! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends will stick by you no matter what, and if the don't then they weren't your friends to begin with. I wouldn't tell the girl that you're in love with her, but I would tell her that you are gay and see what she says. At least that way if she's not gay, then you two can still be friends. Good Luck:)
2006-12-29 04:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by daisy83731 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting her know that you really like her may be awkward, especially if you've been friends for a while. It would be no different if it was a boy/girl relationship. Taking that next step from friendship to a romantic relationship is always awkward.
But telling her your feelings would be a good step to letting her know that you really enjoy her and would like more from the relationship.
2006-12-29 04:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell this person how you feel and hope that she won't get mad at you. Either way this is tough decision to handle. Just follow you heart and do what you feel is best for you.
2006-12-29 04:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by A Journey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that my friends consider me a good and true friend. I have a few forever friends too.. I love all mine too
2016-03-28 23:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are friends they will still be around --- are you prepared to come out???
if not then dont say anything --- if you are then let her know but dont tell her how you feel --- see how she reacts --- if you do both it will be an overload for her and she will not react truthfully it will be a kneejerk reaction
2006-12-29 04:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some "friends" will go, some friends will stay.....those that go, arent really your friend because they are purely judgemental of you but those who dont really care if you are straight, gay or bi, are your real friends because they arent judging you based on sexuality......i have a gay friend, didnt know he was gay until he actually told me but we are still friends, big deal
2006-12-29 04:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋