Help with my 2 year old?

Question

I know she is in her terrible twos but she is constantly throwing fits and crying for no reason. She is not sick. I have tried spanking and timeout. Nothing seems to work. She is starting to tell me no. I have tried counting to 3 and it worked for a couple of weeks. Now when I do it I get to 3 and she runs in her room and slams the door and crys and crys and crys. What do I do? Is there something I'm doing wrong? What would be a better way of teaching her what she is doing is not right? Any ideas for punishment other than spanking and timeout?

Answer 1

When she throws a fit, take her to her room, close the door, and walk away. If she opens the door, stand outside of it and hold it closed. Let her cry, and scream, and what ever she needs to do, but show her that throwing fits does not get her what she wants and that she will not get your attention this way.

By showing her lots of attention when she does something good, and ignoring her when she is bad, she will learn that you want her to behave and that you will reward her for being good not for acting out.

Answer 2

I was taught that one thing a child does not like is to have their parents act up so what i used to do is when my son threw a fit i would get right down on the floor beside him and throw my fit he did not like that i would even do that in the store.

Reward your child for good behavior and that could be by words of praise all the way to even letting her have a say so with an item for dinner.

Answer 3

I had similiar problems when my son was aroun 20 months for about 6 months. People say it is the first adoloscence and you shuldny punish them. You have to be very careful though. you dont want to spoil her as well. But she is trying to prove her personality and once she is convinced that you accept her she will give up. to do that you have to ignore bad behavior, make her choose in between things(even what she will wear that day ) and tolerate as much as you can so that she can experience life. remember she just realized she is a different person than you and all she is doing is she is trying to prove it to you. I f you dont let her to, this stage will take longer time and at the end you will have a psychologcally damaged child...

Answer 4

My 3 year old is VERY active, and I was in the same boat, but I have started to get creative. Try these, every kid is different but maybe one of these things will work for you.

Figure out what it is that she really hates and use that as her punishment. I know it sounds cruel but it works. My daughter hates the feeling of Vaseline on her face. So when she is getting out of control I put a pinch of Vaseline on my finger and she stops whatever she is doing.

The other thing that is working for me is rewards for good behavior instead of punishing for bad. Keep little rewards in your purse, m&m's or little toys or whatever she likes. It won't take her long to figure out that good behavior gets her better results than bad.

Answer 5

I have the same problem,what i`m doing is taking away her favorite toy until she listens ans apologizes if that does not work i punish her from going anywhere lets say to the store or an afternoon walk, whatever you do with her that she likes cut it off for a while. Let me know how it goes.

Answer 6

my second child used to throw fits and hold her breath I totally ignored her bad behaviour and eventually she stopped ...children act out for attention weather its good or bad attention ....I suggest you try praising good behaviour and ignoring bad behaviour this is a stage and
she will out grow it eventually

Answer 7

GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING HOPEFULLY IT DOESNT LAST LONG IM AT MY WITTS END WITH IT AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO EITHER GOOD LUCK TO YOU WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER