I want to sing and start a job but I'm emmbarressed. Please help
2006-12-29 04:05:08 · 22 answers · asked by Zig Zag 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Performing Arts
Your best bet is to find out what exactly bothers you about speaking in front of other people. Is it fear of failure? Are you self conscious about your looks/voice? Are you afraid that others will laugh at you? Analyze your fear until you find the exact problem, then focus on overcoming that particular fear. And above all, know that there is hope! Many people have overcome this fear, me included. Keep trying!
2006-12-29 11:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by Prue 3 · 30⤊ 1⤋
All the answers that people has giving you are correct, don't over think or over analise, try to relax, breath and jump to it..
I sang professionally for over 4 years and let me tell you something every time you go on stage its the same thing, you are always a little scared, cause every night its a different audience and they always respond different. Don't know how is your band, but the best its always be on stage making chorus or just animating by dancing.. after the third song you will feel better and you can start singing (the first 2 songs in my case were interpreted by other musicians or were just introductions..).
It always helps to think that If you make a mistake, your band will understand, probably no one else will notice and if they do (which trust me its not common cause they don't know about music or what you've been rehearsing) you will unlikely see them again in your life, so.. keep your mind optimistic at all times and make everything a show.. even the possibles mistake, you must know a little of how be an entertainer, even if its just by smiling and flirt a little, try to take a quick look at the audiance and try to spot someone who is admiring you, listening or paying attention, make eye contact with them, smile or make any feedback, they will make you feel secure, with the rest of the crowd, and most important they will notice you and appreciate you more.
It always helped me to think that when im on stage im a different person, i am what ever im singing (the one with the broken heart, the diva, etc..) I live my songs, get involved, close my eyes, or jump if necessary.. the people is there to be entertained or just to be touched, they want the show.. if you do that you dont have to worry about anything, its your moment..
I hope I could be a little of help, if you need any other advice, you can let me know.. oh and.. don't drink anything cold or hot before your performance.. keep a bottle of water close, so you can keep your vocals nice (drink it with discretion) and try not to eat spicy food before..
ta!
2006-12-29 13:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by luisa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how you feel. I play piano, and have been playing for ten years. I started when I was 6 years old. At my first recital, I had to play "how much wood could a woodchuck chuck". Every time I messed up, I stopped and said "oh shoot". I was fine, until I walked back into the audience and my two older brothers made fun of me. I felt horrible, and even though I know I have nothing to fear, I shake during my performances. I don't have the same problem in a band when I'm playing trumpet, tuba, or saxophone, but I can't play alone. I had the top seat for trumpet, but always gave the solos to the next person because of my fear. I am so mad, because I am very gifted at piano, but can't show other people. I have always thought that a good way to get rid of this sort of fear would be to start in an empty auditorium performing while facing your back to the seats. Then have people file in slowly as you are performing, and when you're done, face the huge audience you performed for! I don't know how you would arrange for that, but... just a thought!
2006-12-29 13:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by five_instruments_so_far 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Zig-Zag !!!
It is very normal for performers to get stage fright, even those very famous ones.
One thing that helps is working on your own confidence!!!
Also it helps a lot thinking of the fact that the majority if not all of this people watching you performing don't really have the talent and courage to do the same and do it well.
So for you to go and perform better every time, I suggest
you focus on the talent you have and the joy you are actually bringing to all the people, watching!!!!
The public could be very demanding but also know and appreciate a good performance, when given from the heart.
Be proud of what you do, and enjoy it at the same time.
HAVE FUN. HAPPY NEW YEAR
Wishing you the best
ALLIV Z
2006-12-29 19:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i had extreme stage phobia. i remember when i was 15 i went on stage to recite a 5 min long prayer at school and i totally fainted i lost my breath and everything. they took me to the health clinic which wasnt so far anayway.
i only lost most of my stage firght this year, i was drunk and went on stage and started fooling around and singing . the next morning i said omg :O idid it. if i did it drunk i can do serious things in normal life. from then on im giving good / decent presentations at university. i used to avoid such things b4 , somethimes used to get a fake doctors ceritficate there was one time i even told the lectureres i had crashed with my car.
i know my info is just useless but it should serve u as a food for thought. in the sense that it is just a phobia ... it has nothing to do with ur capabilites, and u have to overcome it in a way that u most feel comfortable with. some pppl might say bit by biit but i did it in a night. one **** of a night it was :)
i wish u the best of luck coz i know how frustrating it is !!
2006-12-29 12:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lara^mt 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I always say; the only way to get rid of a fear is to face it. For example, if you're scared of spiders, go near spiders. In your case, you have stage fright, so the best way would be to go on stage and get it over with. Know what I mean? Hope I helped!
2006-12-29 12:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mellie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perform solo and ensemble work at the church of your choice.
Take some voice lessons and coaching, so you can fix any problems with your singing.
If your voice is not well suited for paid vocal performances, you need to find that out now. Some folks cannot carry a tune in a bucket but love to sing in the shower. They should confine themselves to the shower.
Don't take the encouragement of your friends without consulting a professional who will be honest with you.
2006-12-29 12:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
be there on the stage about 2 hrs early and practice,look for something that caughts your eyes like a logo in front of the stage or a window anything that can divert your attention and make you concentrate make sure you vocalize first,know your song line by line and always take a deep breath before you start singing
2006-12-29 12:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Two things work for me. Number 1, realize that most people sitting there listening to you WANT YOU to succeed. They would be uncomfortable if you didn't, they came to hear something good...so they are eager for you to succeed; THEY ARE ON YOUR SIDE. Keep that in mind. Secondly, just before you go on, do a little breathing exercise where you slowly pull in and out a few deep breaths (Slowly...not trying to hyperventilate here!) and when you blow out, imagine you are blowing your fear into a brown bag that you fill up with it and "stuff it in the corner" before you go onstage...and you are breathing in the "good vibes" of the audience....you know, if you truly like performing...once you start...that fear will go away...so you just need to start!
2006-12-29 19:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by lotsaanswers 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
calm down and breath! but dont picture the audience in their underwear! it wont help at all. te yourself you can do it! just say positive things. and one thing that might help in singing as it does acting...is dont look at the audience until you're comfortable with it. Start with looking staright ahead, but NEVER look at the ceiling or the floor!!!unless you do it to help fit the words. other wise,let the audience know that you want to be on stage performing for them! Good luck, and have fun!
2006-12-29 12:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To conquer stage fright, you need to master the troubling thoughts that are causing your anxiety, like 'Oh I sound horrible' and 'Wow, I'm going to be bad'.
Don't overanalyze your performance and don't think everyone is expecting you to be bad.
It takes a lot of guts to get up on stage and the audience knows and respects that.
I recommend "Mastering the Art of Public Speaking"
Get it here:
http://www.amazon.com/Mastering-public-speaking-Peter-Desberg/dp/0760714126/sr=8-1/qid=1167412225/ref=sr_1_1/002-9324323-4149631?ie=UTF8&s=books
And..... it's important to breathe and keep your throat open.
If you let your throat close up, it will crush your sound.
Move around before you go on and focus on your voice while you're performing, but don't overanalyze, just stay focused.
2006-12-29 12:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by C 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋