If someone tells you not to call them again, but you know they are really just frustrated, do you think they will pickup the phone and call, or do you think they feel happy with thier decision and relieved.
2006-12-29 04:05:01 · 23 answers · asked by Sash2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would all depend why you broke up and how you still feel about this person. If you cheated on the person, well probably best to stay out of their hair for at least a few months, but if it was just a mutual break-up over something trivial, and you still have feelings for the person, just call once and tell the person how you feel, or you may end up regretting it. After she/he knows then leave it alone. This is only if you have the intentions of getting back together, changing, etc. Best wishes to you!
2006-12-29 04:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Momof3boys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You didn't provide much information about either of you.
I suggest that if they said "don't call" then by all means resist the urge.
It basically depends on the people involved. You mentioned the word frustrated rather than angry (or worse). For example: if you are the clingy type and that is what is frustrating them, then back off. Do a self-check, use the time to grow and become secure with yourself. If you had a difference of opinion and the second person was frustrated because you didn’t agree, then I'd wait a week or so. Send a card letting them know that you're still around if they need you. Don’t write a letter or note inside the card, just your name. No Love Ya’s, Miss You's, etc. If they were more than merely frustrated, any further communication could be considered harassment.
Some people are quick to be dramatic. I’d still chill though.
Stay cool and be there if they need you!
Good Luck to both of you
2006-12-29 13:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by dee-dee conley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be either or both. If someone tells you NOT to call them
I would suggest letting it go for now. Without knowing the whole situation I cant really say because I know that I have been mad and told people not to call me & then I when I calm down I wished that I had never said it. You know the situation & so you KNOW the answer to this question. However, if you wait a week or so & call & then they dont answer or tell you NOT to call again....... I would say stop calling otherwise it turns into harrasement.
2006-12-29 12:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. Depends on the circumstances. Those are harsh words though and shouldn't be said or taken lightly. I wouldn't take them lightly, and if he did call me again after saying something like that, if I even allowed myself to pick up the phone to hear him out, I would be very cautious in listening to what he said. I would make it clear that I don't allow that sort of wishy washy stuff in my life, and I absolutely wouldn't. That is stooping below a minimal level of respect and it causes distrust and obviously hurt. It totally conflicts with my own standards for a decent relationship. Not saying he/she doesn't have a good excuse for saying what he/she said, only you know if it's justified, but I wouldn't wait by the phone. I'd take it at face value and take the time to reflect on what went wrong and what I could do to improve on my own mistakes for future purposes.
2006-12-29 12:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person, and what they are so frustrated about. I mean, how do you know that they are just frustrated? Or more to the point, are they just frustrated with you? No, I doubt the phone call will be made. If you want to get through to him/her, email them or send a note or send flowers. Something to say that you are sorry for what he/she is going through and that you understand and will be here for them when they need someone to talk to.
2006-12-29 12:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Therese 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know this person better than any of us here. Whether they pick up the call anot, first and foremost I would think you had better give it one more try, perhaps wait for 2-3 days later. If that person rejects you again, Moved On.. Sometimes you just have to let it go, but if it returns, its your forever. Gd Luck..
2006-12-29 12:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by ConfuseD 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea to harass someone who tells you that. If they're frustrated, yeah, they'll be relieved if you don't call for a bit. I highly doubt they'll call you if they told you that either unless you give them time to cool down.
2006-12-29 12:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well pal writings on the wall.It's over now time to move on don't waste u r time pining over a lost cause.And don't be a stalker.This girl called me one cuz my comp is messed up at times and my comp messed things up oh well.No big loss.But she is a bone head 4 thinking that.
2006-12-29 12:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by Victorio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer that but the person that said that and hung up. . .If you really don't think its over, give him/her a day to cool down and call them. . .
If they still don't want to talk / don't answer, just tell him/her to call when they are ready . . .
You know the situation better than anyone on here
2006-12-29 12:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by Coleen429 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know this? Are you a mind reader? If they have asked you not to call again then don't. Whether they regret their decision or not remains to be seen.
2006-12-29 12:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋