is it really true that most parents love their kids and want their best?

Question

Many parents keep telling their children "while you live under my roof you'll have to follow my rules". Also, when many parents punish their kids it sems they just want to preserve their authority, but are not worried at all about their kids feelings and don't intendo to punish them for their best. So, it sems many parents just see their kids as nuisances and don't really love them. They just want them to follow their rules and behave like parents want, but don't worry about their kids well being, happiness and feelings
This is my perception at 15, and it's not teem thing

Answer 1

Most... at least the good ones.. they don't want you to make stupid mistakes when you are young and will regret later..

Answer 2

Well, consider that all parents have been 15. As much as you may not want to hear it, they've been where you are. Nothing in the world has changed other than the times and that there's more ways to make mistakes that can't be undone.

My best friend has a daughter who's 13; Her mother kicks butt daily to keep her in good schools, have decent clothes and be able to experience a number of cool things (like spending three weeks in the Virgin Islands). The only thing my friend wants her daughter to do is get a good education and be a responsible human being. The daughter, on two separate occasions, has lied to her folks about where she's been, and has gone places on her own without permission. Then she gets pissed when she has to be punished.

My house, my rules? Hell yeah. Your parents are responsible for you and for keeping you safe. If kids were so brilliant, they wouldn't be getting pregnant so soon, dropping out of school, doing drugs or looking to their parents for money. Yes, in that way kids are a nuisance. I'm not saying that there aren't some folks out there that shouldn't be parents, because there are. BUT- most parents are decent people who want the best for their kids. They've been where you are, and know what can happen. The problem is that kids don't have the maturity or experience to understand that, and you wind up doing stupid things. I guess it's the only way you learn.

Answer 3

Yes most parents do really love their kids and want the best for them. While it is true that there are some parents who have control issues, this is not as common as kids seem to think. Parents are not perfect. But then again neither are you. Parents sometimes make serious mistakes. So do you. The difference is that many of the mistakes your parents may see you headed toward, they have already made and know that the consequences of those mistakes can make your life extremely difficult if not ruin your future altogether. It is difficult to explain this to kids so sometimes parents just put their foot down and assert their authority. I personally beleive that even though it is difficult, parents should make the effort to explain the reason for the rules of the home. It makes it easier for kids to obey the rules if they understand why and how it benefits them. "Because I say so", is a last resort after reasoning with them has failed.

Answer 4

U r still a baby/ maturity comes with the age. U must understan that the parents go out the way make them comfortable/If god exits then ur parents r demigods for u. They derive strength from the super power to/help u/guide u/They see thair future with u only/ why should they harm u? If u hve a view point they readily agree to what u say/ in many cases parents do take the advice of their children . For a wel knit family u need this. U must understand parental love/ which is well above any other attachment. Still u hve doubt u can email me at [e-mail] R

Answer 5

I had the same perception when I was your age. I am much older now and a parent to a 17 year old daughter and 15 year old son. Most parents biggest fear is that their kids will end up making the same mistakes they did when they were that age. All kids make mistakes and it is our job as parents to discipline our children and teach them right from wrong. If your parents didn't love you they would let you do as you want and not care what happens .Being a parent is not easy but we do it because we love you..

Answer 6

Been there done that. What you see as control, they see as love. They have goals and aspirations for you, and figure if you keep on their track you will be happy because you will reach their goals. They are controlling and punishing you because they love you, only sometimes what's best for you and what they think is best for you isn't always the same thing. Make this deal with yourself. Stick it out through high school. At 15, they probably do know what's best for you, at least in terms of keeping you safe and healthy. When you graduate, you'll have a little more life experience, and going off to college will give you the freedom you crave now. So grit your teeth and try to stay out of trouble. Try to compromise on what you're allowed to to. Good luck!

Answer 7

It's really just your perception. I have three girls, the youngest two are 16 and 18. Every rule I put down for them is for their safety and to ensure that they are raised morally. My youngest one feels the same as you--that I am on a power trip and out to make her life miserable.

What teens do not understand is that it would be a lot easier for parents to just say "F- it, do what you want and suffer the consequences." This would be irresponsible parenting, though.

The part of your brain that is responsible for sound judgment and decision making does not fully mature until you are in your early twenties. Therefore, it might be difficult for you to discern what is really good for you.

As long as your parents are not abusing or neglecting you and you have some fun time with them, you can bet they love you and only have your best interests at heart.

Answer 8

I must say, your outlook is a teen thing honey. I am a parent to two young children and I find myself going - Oh, so that's what my parents meant......

Every parent is different. No parent is perfect. But we do try hard. I feel my role as a parent is to guide and support my children so they can become the best person they can be. I never think my children are pains and I love them more than life itself. Not all parents feel that way, but please, most do love their children.

I am assuming you did something you shouldn't have and got caught. Right now you are feeling anger. I've been there and gone through it. It's normal to think parents don't understand you, but honestly, they really do. Parents know much more than we give them credit for. The only thing with most parents, they tend to forget what they did at your age. Talk your feelings over with your parents after you have calmed down. You might just see things differently.

Answer 9

Most parents do love their kids. It may not seem like that from your point of view. When they say things like "while you live under my roof you'll have to follow my rules" they want to protect you from things you cant see or understand.They watch the news. I know it seems that parents can get overprotective, but they just want to keep you safe, and so yes they do love (since they want to protect you) There are so many kidnappings and stuff going on. Hope I helped!

Answer 10

Most parents do love their children and want the best for them. It is difficult for a child to see things this way. At 15 you are probably struggling for independence yet don't have the means to be independent. Whenever you live in anyone else's house you have to follow their rules no matter how old you are.

Answer 11

As a parent, they been leaving and behave like teenages b4, they act juz like u b4, so they knew what is worst and what is not. We did try not to repeat the same mistake. Thats y as a parent we will tried hard to explain what is good and what is bad to our children. Sometimes between the lines, theres some hush, some bad wording that we used, its coz of too much anger and too much patient inside. Its hard to explain and its hard to tell so many times, thats the anger comeout. Sometimes, yes we knew its our mistakes, but as a parent its hard to explain the whole thngs. We alwayz taught later u will understood, Parents do love their kids so much, juz imagine with all the expensive education, expensive tuitions fees, y not we juz spend that on ourself or on our honeymoon anniversary. but we did spend on the kids. We dnt want to go a waste all things we gave, we always want our kids doing better then us, or same level as us, we scared if they makes the same mistakes like us, thats the proctection start. : while u live under my roof you'll have to follow my rules"