So I've hung out with this guy on several occassions, both alone and with his friends. He is not afraid to show affection towards me when he is around his friends, but I am also worried that he may only want sex. About the fourth time we hung out he fingered me but before he went for it he said "if you dont want me to, i wont." However, he is also very hard to read and when I text him he's not very good at keeping the conversation going. This could be due to the fact that he hasn't been in any kind of relationship or dating or anything for two years and he is certainly no player. I'm just confused because he seemed incredibly shy but now he's just going for it. We haven't really discussed anything on a seriously emotional level, but it just feels "right" when we are together and, according to his friends, he always enjoys hanging out with me. It just seems like he's moving fast. Does it seem like he's being sincere, or does he just want to get laid?
2006-12-29 03:46:01 · 7 answers · asked by laxgirl33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would ask him to spend an evening with him one on one, no friends, just the two of you, just to talk. Take time to get to know him more, and don't be afraid to flat out ask him, are you with me just to get laid. After that you can make the decision on whether or not you want to continue to be with him.
2006-12-29 03:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I had a relationship like this and it didn't end well. Honestly, there may be a chance he is just wanting to be with you for the sex. If he isn't participating in conversations and when you hang out, it's purely sexual, I think it's a sexual thing. I know, you may think it feels right when you're with him but it may be the fact that someone is showing you attention. See, the guy I dated like this was a rebound guy. I just ended a 7 month relationship and this guy asked me out. By the end of the first night, he was attempting to take off my shirt. I freaked and left. I went out with him again but by the third date, he had me pinned down in the back seat trying to get in my pants. But, while we hung out, it seemed to feel just right. Now thinking about it, I just wanted someone to be around. I dunno...just don't do anything you don't want to do. Good luck..
2006-12-29 11:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he wants a long term relationship based on trust, commitment and love. He wants to be your Knight in shinning @#$------------I cant keep this up I'm making myself ill!
HE WANTS TO GET LAID!
2006-12-29 11:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by stonedpigeon1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh - Is he a guy? Then yes, he just wants to get laid.
2006-12-29 11:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Joshua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey have you think about he is being sincere and wants to get laid....come on that is perfectly fine right.
2006-12-29 11:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very very easy to answer if you want to find out then just keep saying NO --- if he is interested in more than sex he will keep coming back
2006-12-29 11:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk, talk, talk and more talk to him. Know him. choose him and let him freely choose you. then sex for ever happily and never worried again.
2007-01-01 04:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by mhrhashemi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋