I met someone through a mutual friend who lives out of state. We have been talking on and off for about six months, and have gotten closer in the past 2 weeks. The reason we were just friends before was because we were both in relationships at that time. I have become single and he says he has too. I requested he send me some more pictures of him because he hadn't in awhile and he directed me to a web page that I didn't know about and told me that I could find more pictures there. I went to the page and saw that the woman he was with for four years (who so happens to live in the same area as me, which isnt where he lives- but he used to live here) had recently posted a message to him about not being able to wait to see him at X-mas time. We didnt talk for about a month before we got in touch the last few weeks and I didnt ask much about his break up. Should I confront him on this? I don't want to sound like a jealous g/f already, but I don't want to be a fool either.
2006-12-29 03:42:00 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He talked to me on the phone several times on Christmas weekend and day, but both of their web profiles say "In a relationship" and other things on the profiles makes it seem as though they are still together.
2006-12-29 03:44:48 · update #1
We have met, we just don't live in the same area right now.
2006-12-29 03:46:41 · update #2
I think you should confront him. I hope this all works out for you. Good luck!
2006-12-29 03:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He directed you to the website, right? Just casually ask him about it...don't start by accusing him in case it is nothing. There are two sides to every story...I know many friends that have caught their significant other cheating and/or lying after reading posts on myspace.com and I know personally I have had people post things on my site that was not true and/or meant to stir up trouble. Regardless, after 4 years in a relationship it is very hard to cut all ties and start a new relationship without there being some baggage, and maybe the two of you should take your time getting to know each other and not be exclusive (especially since you are doing the long-distance thing)
2006-12-29 03:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him what is on your mind, ask details about his breakup and in other occasions reask the same things but in a different way and if he said the truth then the answers should be the same no matter how you ask. Then again, do you want to start a relationship with doubts? is he worth that much to you? some of this questions might help you reach an aswer you can only answer yourself.
2006-12-29 03:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by ednaywilliams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it. You are in one state and he is in another. You didn't say if he is planing to move back or are you planing to move to where he is. Either way find a man closer to home. Are you that hard up to have a bf that you would have one with a guy in another state?. The best part of having a gf or bf is spending time together. This is something you can't do.
2006-12-29 03:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong in asking him about this girl. Just don't ask him in a way that sounds like you are accusing him but ask him casually. This does not make you look jealous at all. You saw it on the page he directed you to and you just would like to know.
2006-12-29 03:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ask him about the comment left on his page. I would ask him does he still talk to his ex on a regular basis and ask are there still feelings between them. You need to find out what exactly happened between them. why did they break up
2006-12-29 03:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set yourself up with a guy who you actually meet...Don't trust anybody out the way. He's just using you to talk to you about his problems and etc. You are being a psycologist and not being paid for it...
2006-12-29 03:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by angelic1302 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U hav the right to tell him, and if he really cares about u, he wont think ur a jealous g/f.
2006-12-29 03:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by AliCat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be upfront with him on how you feel and asking questions about past g/f so you can feel at ease with one self
2006-12-29 03:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by derek_thomas71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to ask him. Hopefully everything is on the up and up.
2006-12-29 03:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋