The thing is, that i don´t have very much in common with her. As much as I am ashamed of admitting it, i think she is a pain in the a** and I always descreetly try to avoid her at work.
We are of same nationality and we live abroad. I feel obligated to invite her just out of sympathy. When she first moved here, i invited her to all social events, but i stopped after i realized we dont really connect.
Many people from our country live in the area, so it is not a matter of me being the only one she knows..
Should I invite her and stop being so selfish or should I say she has to figure it out for herself and not feel so guilty? Isn't it normal that once in a while you meet somebody you basically dont like?
2006-12-29 03:41:36 · 17 answers · asked by ikpfradk 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No one likes a pity invite; even the most desperate of people can sense when they're not wanted. If you're going to be that uncomfortable with her around you on New Years', I'd say avoid what could be an extremely awkward situation and politely say something like "Well, it's just going to be some close friends, and we have had this planned out for a while...". She may feel badly that you said no, but she'll feel worse if she goes and is ignored the whole time, and if it's true that she knows other people in the area, perhaps she'd have a better time with someone else.
2006-12-29 05:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal not to like people. . .but keep in mind that sometimes people are overbearing because they are trying so hard. Personally, I would try and suck it up, be the bigger person, and go with "the more the merrier" type of attitude.
HOWEVER, if you're really thinking that she's going to RUIN your new year's eve. . you can pull the line that it was a friend that invited you, and you feel uncomfortable inviting someone else. . .blah blah.
Just be prepared that no matter how you tell her no, she will probably get the hint and her feelings would be a little hurt. . .
2006-12-29 03:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Coleen429 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya its a normal thing when u encounter people u have nothing in common with and dont like. but ur not getting to no her that much if u avoid her at work or anywhere else. give her a chance and maybe you'll find something in common with her she might even become one of ur close frinends if u talk to her more. invite her to this new year event she might even change after the new year.
2006-12-29 03:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by AJL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hum, tough one. but it's only once a year and you never know you might find there is some place you can connnect. I knew a guy for 10 years and didn't like him then after a social event when we both discovered we loved dancing we became great friends (not in any sexual sense btw) We're still good friends now even though we live in different countries.
2006-12-29 04:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to invite her to your party, and it was extremely rude for her to invite herself.
You should just tell her that you're sorry but the guest list is already set, and you're not really in a position to invite her as this event was planned with other friends.
2006-12-29 06:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not like you 2 would be alone celebrating. What's the harm in inviting her to join you to hang out with your friends. Maybe some of your friends will have something in common with her and will keep her entertained.
2006-12-29 03:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
someone like to have a easy walk at park, some people like to take a hike. It's not easy to invite someone you don't like. Most people would pick the easy one and say no. But you are special. and You will feel much better after you found out you can be the special person who can. You can be with any people you like or not. If James bond does not like to socialize with the people he doesn't like, he won't become the super hero.
2006-12-29 04:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by magictiger_007 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh , get for real---u got to look at the positive side.
Invite her to join and have a great time.
Ignore any pain in the a** stuff and just go wid the flow.
Stop being selfish...JOY means Jesus first Others next and then Yourself
2006-12-29 03:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do your friends think about having her join you?
If it's going to be a group of you, then why not invite her to tag along? It's not like you'd be one-on-one with her all the time - just relax, have fun with your friends, and be pleasant with your coworker. She might surprise you - and you might surprise yourself!
Happy New Year :-)
2006-12-29 04:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kellenor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite her...just because I would hate to feel bad about her spending New Years alone. But, if you really can't stand the thought of it...just turn her down nicely. You could say something like you had to cancel your plans becuase your family is coming in from out of town. Then you and your friends could meet up somewhere she doesn't know about. IDK, hope this helps.
2006-12-29 03:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋