We got into an argument last night when I asked him 2 stop drinkin & drive me.I always get stuck driving him around!I met some friends & wanted to hang out & have a few drinks. I simply asked if he would stop drinking, wasnt making him or anything. We ended up in a HUGE fight! He followed me to the bathroom where I was crying & started yelling at me more! I had enough & told him I was leaving. He had a friend there that could bring him home, so I went to my car. He followed me out & said I was "2 drunk 2 drive". I WAS HIS DD TO BEGIN WITH! He pinned me up against my car & slapped me across the face! I was so shocked! He had me there for almost 2 mins & wouldnt let me go! I dont want to be the dumb@$$ that goes back&gets hit again! I never thought anything like this would happen to me!Ive NEVER been hit by a guy! I feel violated, degraded&pissed. Do I speak to him again? Do I leave him? Was this a 1 time thing cause he was drunk?Is he gonna think he can get away with it if I go back?
2006-12-29 03:34:05 · 10 answers · asked by geminiqtpie22 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You do not deserve to be in a relationship in which you are being abused, even if this was the first time this happened. When you've been with a person this long you get to know what kind of people they become in all situations.
Allow me to clarify what constitutes as abuse. Abuse is not just the physical hitting that most people think of but also controling behavior, verbal put downs or attacks or any actions that demoralizes you as a human being. If he has shown any of these activities, get out of this relationship as soon as humanly possible.
If you believe that this is a one time deal, go ahead and talk to him, but tell him that his behavior was completely wrong.
Also take into account his behavior when he is drunk. His behavior now forshadows what his behavior would be in future events.
I hope I have been of help.
2006-12-29 03:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were to go back to him now, he's gonna abuse that forgiveness and I bet it's gonna happen again, and maybe worse. He doesn't seem to respect you, don't mention about the good things he did when things were good. Think of what he did to you when things weren't as he expected. When there's rainbow in the sky, everything else is beautiful So think of the storms, was he still sweet and loving? That's when he is real. You may not like it but for your own happiness, I hope you do think about it. 2 years isn't long but neither is it short, there'll be a level of hardship for making such a decision. For now, cool down and 'analyse' if I may say. If he looks for you, ask him to give you some time to re-consider the relationship. He has to respect that if he is truly a man. Don't expect him to get better or change instantly after this incident, ask yourself, if he stays this way for the next few years, will you wanna be with him? People normally don't change, very, very rarely people do.. So plan for the most probably results. Hope you can handle this wisely :)
2006-12-29 03:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if it was b/c he was drunk or b/c he was just too mad & couldnt' control hisself. But it is definetley something you need to think about and you need to be on the look out. I would definetely suggest you guys go to couseling for this type of behavior, b/c that is not normal & it could have been worse. You 2 also need to have a lon conversation about this. If it happens again and gets out of control "Call the Police"!
2006-12-29 03:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you speak to him again...sure to say See Ya!!!!
Do you leave him...Hell Yes, more then likely he will do it again
Did he do it because he was drunk...Who cares!!! He did it and that's all that should matter
Does he think he can get away with it....Yes because if you take him back he will do it again!
Threw out your whole story you sounded strong then you ask all these questions that you know the answers to already. Once a man knows that he can get away with something once, he will do it again. Good luck
2006-12-29 03:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, i understand that you love this guy but is this the guy you want to spend your life with?
ABUSE is a NO NO!!!! If he's hit you once he'll hit you again ... get out of it now while you still have a chance. I know this is a difficult decision but in the long run you'll feel that you did the right thing.
Best of Luck
2006-12-29 03:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by angelface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your descriptions of him, he sounds like a real jerk. I would leave him, but watch your back because he probably is the possesive type. If he gets violent with you, that's a very good reason to leave him. I don't like drinking. Umm...You knew you were the designated driver,so I hope you weren't drinking as well. But yeah...I'd leave him and never get back with him. Maybe tell your parents to watch out for him?
2006-12-29 03:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lara W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you particularly love him, you does no longer question no count if or no longer you ought to wreck up with him, except there became a concrete reason (jealousy isn't an appropriate reason.) So i visit first ask this ... do you particularly love him? If my fiance and that i chosen the comparable important and he became farther forward than myself, i might congratulate him and inspire him to pursue his targets; despite if it meant i became no longer as powerful as he. it is not a contest, relationships are meant to be a partnership. Are you jealous of different factors relating him, or merely his modern-day fulfillment? in step with threat he's unquestionably gifted at what he does, in spite of the undeniable fact that your perfect is the perfect you're able to do and there'll continually be somebody who's "extra helpful." in case you have those thoughts of jealousy in direction of your very own boyfriend, probability is you have got them in direction of others on your destiny profession field. in certainty, you have got jealousy for all of us you stumble upon, so merely quit with those thoughts suitable now because of the fact they are going to reason you (and probable others) extra harm than good. Do what you could and don't difficulty approximately who's merely before who. help and love your boyfriend as he helps and loves you.
2016-11-24 22:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, run, run as fast as you can. Do not go back to him unless you have absolutely no doubt that he's quit drinking. My mom always tells me that she regrets that she didn't get out of her marriage when my dad first hit her. You don't want to get caught up with him, believe me.
2006-12-29 03:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by LikeItsMyLast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time will be worse. I hope he slapped some sense into you.
2006-12-29 03:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to him alright but it would be to tell him to go **** himself. What a jackass.
2006-12-29 03:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋