but he claim that i am the person that he wants to be with (he can't talk to me). if have been the only person in his corner since we me more than 5 years ago and he doesnt believe that i would support him.
i am tired of constantly have to prove my love over and over again. y doesnt he know how i feel about him by now? should i leave?
2006-12-29 03:14:14 · 8 answers · asked by PreciousLady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's insecure and has not reflected on his own issues or worked to resolve them enough to be in a decent, satisfying relationship. Continuing to try to prove yourself to him is wasting your time and emotional energy. You will drive yourself crazy doing this, and in my own experience, it was very unrewarding. He may be looking for a reason to break things off with you by blaming you or doubting you (either consciously or subconsciously) to avoid being hurt or because he doesn't want a decent relationship with you in the first place. If you didn't do anything to cause his doubts and distrust, don't try to prove to him how worthy you are. You'd be better off backing out now and letting him learn his own lessons from his own behavior. 5 years is a long time for you to spend trying to prove your worthiness for a good relationship.
2006-12-29 04:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what have you done to show him your love? A lot of men don't want to admit it but the crave attention the same way women do. They want to be surprised with a dinner for two, or a small gift every now and then, a love note tucked into their lunch bag, coat or pants pocket. If you have done this and more then pat yourself on the back. He may have a trust issue or may have had his heart broken before since you say he's your ex. The only thing to do is get him to tell you why he feels that way. Sit down and have a one on one talk.
2006-12-29 11:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh? You just called him your ex. so is he or is he not your ex??
Give him the ultimatum that you feel you should leave cos u are tired of proving urself to him all the time.. It depends on if you have both previously had trust issues? The alternative reason is he's just a pain in the backside and likes to play guilt trips on you.. it's usually the girl that does it *shrug*
You guys REALLY need to talk or else nothing gets anywhere and you're just going round in circles
You need to ask yourself if you really to be with this person or not. We can't tell you.
2006-12-29 11:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by lyssaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too much left unsaid. You need to get out now. You already have a track record with the guy and you lost. You need to find someone who adores and loves you until the end. Good luck.
2006-12-29 11:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would have left a looooooong time ago. He sounds like too much work and too needy! Move on and find someone that appreciates you for who you are!
2006-12-29 11:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mystic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you wasting your time with this insecure and needy leech? get on with your life. find out why you were attracted to him in the first place and make sure it never happens again.
2006-12-29 11:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you two planning a future together if you aren't together now?
2006-12-29 11:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's your ex, then you dont have a future to plan. leave already.
2006-12-29 12:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋