I'm 50 but look and act like 30 and Ive been divorced for 6 years, I have custody of my 4 children (2 are now over 18), and find it impossible to go up and start talking to a good looking, nice female. I'm just to shy. I was married for 15 years, so forgot how to talk to and meet them. Im so tired of being lonely for female companionship. I dont drink, so bars are out, and I dont go to church. I own my own house but dont want someone to want me just for a place to live so I dont tell them. How do I meet someone to fill the lonelyness I'm feeling?
2006-12-29 02:56:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, thats a tuff one. Maybe start going to church? All I can say is Dont give up. Keep looking, 1 will come along when you least expect it.
2006-12-29 03:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by D.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was very shy when we met. We were introduced by a common friend have been together for 4 years now have never spent a day apart since the first day we met.
Ask a friend if he/she has a friend, or ask a co-worker, go to a play strike up conversation with someone at the play about the play, place an ad or answer an ad (be careful) the coffee shop is always a good place too.
I wish you happiness!!
2006-12-29 11:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Megz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate to you. I'm in a similar situation except, I'm not desperate for a female. I enjoy being seperated and single. I can finally live my life as I want. My kids are all grown, I have the house to myself and find many interesting things to do in and outside the home. There are some really nice, hott women in Raleigh, NC but I don't want to get into the dating game. It's such a grind. Women demand too much and I'm so over playing games with them. I've had a couple of women approach me but I can tell that they're looking for a husband...Been there, done that
Just stop looking for women and being desperate. If it's meant to be it will happen.
2006-12-29 11:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ot ever seen Wedding Crashers? Rule #47 "No excuses play like a champion!!" - Vince Vaughn.
Just start a conversation and the easiest thing for people to talk about is to talk about themselves. Ask a few questions to get it started and then just nod your head every once and a while and say "Oh! thats awesome", or "you really do that, you must be very smart" and the while still nodding. ANd then before you know it. 4 bottles of Petron later your playinjg butt-naked freeze-tag in your living room. I mean is there another better game to play? I think not sir!!!
2006-12-29 11:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply go up to a woman of your choosing and choose an ice breaker...Like if you're out on the town and you see a store...say hey that's interesting and she'll make the conversation...I mean first make sure she's single and all but it's not that difficult...All you have to do is wing it...what's the worst she can say if you ask her out on a date...No but then that leaves open so many other possiblities...I mean just like women say there's so many fish in the sea...which automatically means there's always someone out there that wants you...For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it. Just start out with simple conversation and see where it goes from there!
2006-12-29 11:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Nichole 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you have to work on your shyness. Things really haven't changed that much since your were married and now divorced. Real women still like all the things they liked then, chivalry, respect, love, walks in the park and all that good stuff. Just be yourself, things will work themselves out if it's mean to happen. You can't force the issue that makes you seem to eager, but you must talk to someone at least. Coffe houses, book stores, malls, parks just ordinary places where people hang out are all good places to meet women. Be real, be honest and don't lay all your cards on the table until you know she's for real and not out for money.
2006-12-29 11:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gigi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start looking locally for activities that you enjoy. If possible, choose activities that require interaction with others.
You might also find some ways to volunteer in your community. You will likely meet caring women. Since they have time to volunteer, they probably aren't just looking for a place to live.
If you do those things, you won't have to approach women. You'll meet them naturally.
2006-12-29 11:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're biggest issue is the percent of singles that are our age. If you can get out once in a while, try to do something that you like doing and find a woman that is doing it. If she is single, you have a great chance.
The other option is e-Harmony
http://www.eharmony.com/
Apparantly they test and connect people on multiple levels.
2006-12-29 11:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could go to Parent without Partners. some cities have them. they are listed in your phone book. also, in the newspapers these are listings of the things that are taking place in town. also, if you have a special interest in something, get involved with it and you might meet a lady through that. hope this helps.
2006-12-29 11:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by rubyred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force yourself to be someone your not. If you are shy, your shy. I'm the same way. If their is someone you like start by greeting them all the time make eye contact women love that! Start slowly don't rush yourself. Go to this webpage. Good Luck!
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/2003/03/07/DD101150.DTL&type=printable
2006-12-29 11:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by Morena461 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋