when my kid goes to time out she will scream untill she can bring her doll to time out. she takes the doll every where.
i am looking for a fun way to get ride of it or to not have in timeout.
2006-12-29 02:51:44 · 12 answers · asked by josh z 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Don't get rid of the doll, it's hers....Isn't it an oxymoron to have fun and time out in the same sentence? The point of time out is to discipline. To have it without the doll is the point you have to make, time out does not include your doll, you want your doll, don't be naughty and have to go to time out.
2006-12-29 02:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Their is nothing fun about timeout and you should not make it fun. When you let her have the doll with her you are letting her have somewhat of a decision in the matter. When children make a bad choice they go to time out to think about their bad choice.
Although you might fell like a bad parent, I would suggest sending her to timeout without the doll, even if she screams. This way you are letting her know that timeout is not a fun place to be and it encourages her to be good.
Try not to use timeout too much, it will take away the meaning.
2006-12-29 11:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by bree 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to take it away?
It seems like it is her form of "security blanket". Some children are more sensitive than others, and they need something (they normally pick something that has been with them from an early age) to soothe and comfort them when they are feeling stressed, over whelmed, tired, sick, hurt, scared,...getting the message? lol! It is almost like their "substitute" for you...their main source of comfort. Most of these children derive comfort from holding it close, and even smelling it!
I think the one has nothing to do with the other...and as a parent (and now a grandparent!) I think you should not worry about the doll in time out!
If you are wanting to break "the doll" habit...then slowly start removing the doll from everyday activities...by suggesting that "Dollie" may want to take a nap...or Dollie is tired..she doesn't want to go out to play...Dollie is not hungry...so she may not go to the table...etc...
Since your daughter seems to love her doll so much.. then use the doll for leverage...take away the doll for misbehavior...but I wouldn't do BOTH...(time out and lose doll!) that would just seem like double "punishment" to your daughter!
Good luck in whatever you decide!
2006-12-29 11:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by photogram1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is an object she carries with her all the time it is likely to be her comfort object, and not for play. It brings her comfort when she can't be with you and you should never take that away. It makes her feel safe and loved, but you should not allow her to have any other toys during time out, just the comfort object. My sons both have one, but my girls didn't. My one son is 5 and still sleeps with doggy, but we don't have to carry him everywhere anymore unless he is sick. My other son has a stuffed crocidile that we do carry everywhere, because he is a year old and can't bear to part with it yet. So if it is the same doll, I would say that is why she throws the fit, but if the doll changes she is doing it because she knows you will give in to her. If it is a comfort object she will grow out of it in her own time. My pediatrician told me not to take it away at a certain age either. That they will give it up when they are comfortable enough to beable to let it go. Good Luck.
2006-12-29 12:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe as long as she's sitting well in time out, you should let her have the doll with her. Maybe it just makes her more comfortable, and as long as she's doing what she should, it doesn't seem like it should be much of a problem. I understand from your point of view that it's annoying that she has to have it, but even adults have certain things like that. My daughter is 2, and insists on certain things at bedtime. She has to have her baby doll next to her, but it's not something she carries around all the time, she just wants it there at bedtime. Maybe your daughter communicates with her doll, and maybe it's even a way for her to get her feelings out. If she's been punished, maybe she wants to sit and vent about it with her doll. I can't say exactly, cuz I'm not in the same situation, but maybe you could reconsider your thoughts about the doll.
2006-12-29 10:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The doll is your daughter's security. It will be difficult to get rid of. It will not be fun nor will she participate in it. Allow her to take the doll to time out. It will not kill you or hurt her. She is getting the discipline still. I wouldn't let her play with it but I would let her sit the doll beside her.
2007-01-01 23:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family has done this method on every child, including me.
Let her cry. Walk away and ignore her. When she feels like she's not getting any attention, she'll stop and realize that she can't change your mind. If you need to, get down on her level and tell her that she is being punished for something and that part of the punishment is being away from her doll. Remind her that in the future, if she does stuff like (whatever she did to get the time out) again, this will be the consequence.
It will help her start critically thinking of consequences. Just don't pay her any mind when she's having a tantrum, and she'll soon stop having tantrums at all, at finding out they're futile.
2006-12-29 10:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sean D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Trust me do not take the doll away from her. My son has an orange monkey he loves to sleep with. If we go to the store or to preschool the monkey has to stay in the car and nap so he can be ready to play when my son gets out of school.
Next time you put her in time out put the doll in her own corner where the child can see her and say: "You both need a time out." When my kids scream I tell them that will only prolong their time out and then I ignore or remove them from time out and put them in there room saying: I don't want to see you acting like this and don't want to listen to it either; so you can throw your little fit all by yourself.
Usually works, cause the kids would much rather be playing than taking an unscheduled nap and the temper tantrum loses power if you don't acknowledge it,
Hope that helps
2006-12-29 11:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by JenKat 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take the doll away when she misbehaves and give it back when she is ready to behave. It's leverage. I would not get rid of the doll, she obviously loves it and it would be cruel to get rid of it.
A lot of parents take away privileges or toys for discipline rather than using time out.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 10:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by lifeisagift 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You scream and act a fool, take the doll away when she is sleeping, and of course beat her till she can't scream anymore.
2007-01-01 20:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by John D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋