All right, I've known this guy for over a year now and we've grown more closer than ever. Like, I've finally gotten comfortable around him (I'm very shy around guys), but it seems sometimes that's it's a bit too close. I mean, some people actually think were dating. The thing is, yeah we flirt a lot with each other, but that's it, nothing more. I mean, we're always hanging out (just the two of us) and stuff and half the time you see us together. Is it bad for people to think that we're a couple? I mean, is the way we act past the friends zone?
Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't complain if anything happens between us, if you get my drift... cause i kinda like him. That's why I ain't complaining about this whole thing. I'm just wondering, cause I'm sooo confused right now.
2006-12-29 02:41:35 · 14 answers · asked by eruname_alcie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just take your time and don't worry about it.
people can be friends for ages without anything happening.
y'know, like a monica and chandler type thing.
2006-12-31 01:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Emma :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a gift to have a best friend. Also if in the future you two actually become a real couple, well your married your best friend and that is something that a lot of people would love to have. I feel that is why so many marriages fail. Some people do not understand what in lust is and what in-love means. When you marry you want to be with someone through the good and the bad. Also someone that you can talk to. Also someone who loves you for you, not your looks, your weight, they love the inside. So I do hope that you do marry your best friend. I would give anything to meet a man like that. Get down on your knees and thank the Good Lord of the gift given to you
2006-12-29 11:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're comfortable where you are, stay where you are. If you want to take this further, take it further.
There's nothing wrong with making choices in life, but you have to understand that if you like where you are at, there's no reason to change unless you want more out of this.
I've seen many friends who skirt the line between friends and bf/gf. The only danger is that if there is no agreement on where the friendship lies, then you run the danger of crossing the other persons' boundary. If you feel you guys are more "exclusive" and he doesn't, would you feel bad if he started dating someone else? You need to talk to him, and have a conversation that lays out the boundaries, if there are any. If both of you are fine with being friends, then be friends, but if that's the case, you also have to be able to live with him becoming exclusive with someone else, and potentially dating and marrying another person, and vice versa. If neither of you guys are thinking about getting in a relationship, then everything should be fine. Just remember, unless you guys want to be exclusive, he's on the market, and so are you.
2006-12-29 10:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by frenzee2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. I've been talking to this girl for 2 months now. We are pretty good friends and we are basically the same as how you describe. After we got comforable with each other we discussed the limits of the friendship.
As long as yall are not making out and holding hands everywhere you go then I would say your still in the friend zone. My suggestion to you would be just keep having fun with him. Just remember that if you ever do cross the just friends bondary that there is no going back.
Good luck to ya and happy holidays.
2006-12-29 10:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Merk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over a year, and this guy still hasn't had a clear move towards you. I'm sorry to say this, but i think he just treats you like a friend nothing more. If a guy likes you more than a friend,believe me, he cannot wait for a year to hold your hand, he cannot wait to go out with you as a proper couple. Men are not shy. Just move on your life, and you will find someone who would love to go out with you as a couple not just friends who flirt sometimes....
2006-12-29 10:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by orangesony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the only person who can give you the answer you want. You just need to sit down and talk to him about it. Most important thing to remember is do NOT be nervous. He's your friend and chances are whatever he tells you, he'll be honest. Lastly, be prepared for disappointment. There may be less in his mind than yours, don't let that frustrate you. If he's really your friend this won't get in the way.
2006-12-29 10:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Joe P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be waiting for you to make a move. You said you were shy, and he doesnt want to scare you. But you need to be careful because if the two of you are just friends, then you dont want to ruin that friendship by becoming intimate.
2006-12-29 10:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
soooooo whats the question,, problem isth is,, if you do the hokey pokey and he doesnt share the same feelings as you then guess what,, you wont be friend any more,, and friend is friends you can act anyway you like to each other,, even sex between friends as long as you 2 talk about how far you want it to go from the start
2006-12-29 10:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to like him a lot. From being good friends, something more can develop. Sure he feels the same way. All the best.
2006-12-29 10:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Femi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been a year, I think it is too much time. If a man likes you likes you he does not waste time and asks you out as a date. He just likes you as a friend but you could ask him.
2006-12-29 10:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋