people say that all the time, by the way.
2006-12-29 02:19:03 · 35 answers · asked by LHR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No - it's not. Been married for 11 years without problems.
2006-12-29 02:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by David B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this has alot to do with the person you get married to. I think that you should have certain things in commom with a potential mate like music, sports other hobbies and so on. This is something that can be shared by both people which creates a bond between those people. Friendship, admiration and love will follow. I think that this makes for a much happier marriage once you have a good foundation to build on.
of course patience, sharing, caring compassion; all these things have to be there also. There are alot more, but if anyone is missing or in short supply, problems start to develop.
I am getting married soon and my fiance and I have a really good relationship but we are still going through marriage counselling before we get married. We felt that it was better to work out our problems/issues now than to have a rocky marriage.
2006-12-29 02:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you listen to people who have such a negative view of such a wonderful thing? Marriage is what you and your spouse make it...period. It is the closest thing to heaven ...if that's what you make it. If you stop listening to all the jokes, and B.S. and naysayers, and forge an honest loving fulfilling relationship with a woman, and then work everyday to keep this wonderful relationship the bedrock of your lives together, You will only love your life totally, and never want it to end. And you will see that all the crap out there dissing marriage is only spewed out by those who haven't a clue what an honest relationship with a woman really is. Sure people make mistakes. They rush into something without really forging the relationship they need for success. They let their hormones dictate their actions, and then bawl about how their marriages fail. Some never had the example of a loving relationship to learn from and emulate, and fall into the same traps their parents did and then fail too. But anybody willing to take the time to work at and forge a good solid loving relationship with a spouse will tell you simply...it's wonderful.
2006-12-29 02:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is. Yes people say that all the time, but if you are in a good, solid relationship with your spouse, it shouldn't be.
I do have to say though, two adults living under the same roof is hard sometimes. We have different ways of doing things and seeing the world. We have different opinions on how things should get done. However, because we have a good base, we can find a happy medium with most situations!
My husband is my best friend, and I feel like part of a greater good when I am with him. I wouldnt' trade being married to him for anything in the whole world! I would say that marriage...to the right person...is great!!
2006-12-29 02:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by Zeida98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever says it did not understand what marriage is and probably married the wrong person for the wrong reason and did not prepare for marriage. That's right -- prepare. Wouldn't you prepare for a new job, for college, for buying a car and a home? So why not prepare fopr a life altering thing like marriage? Discuss religion, raising children, finances, household chores, property, money,illness, leisure time, education, employment, travel, moving etc. BEFORE even considering getting married. If people were plain and honest with each other and worked out most of the kinks beforehand, marriage is TERRIFIC.. My first marriage was hell because we ddn't know how to talk to each other. This marriage is absolutely heaven and I know my 1st husband was not a bad man, just wrong place, wrong time, wrong people. My 2nd and I went to pre-marital counselling and I tell you 5 years into it and I still feel like I am on my honeymoon.
2006-12-29 03:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by babygyrl_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's true or not. I'm 27 and never been married, and I don't ever want to be married.
I think maybe some people say it's a living hell because they have to wake up with the same person everyday. Live with the same person for years and years. And there is never any variety.
Men and Women both need variety in their lives, and when they get married it gets boring and they start to hate and resent each other.
The trick is to keep your marriage alive by surprising each other with nice things. Say nice things to each other, and try different and interesting things in the bedroom. Be affectionate and loving and respectful and considerate and hopefully it'll last forever.
2006-12-29 02:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a marriage to be successful, both people have to really work at it. That means giving of yourself when you might not want to, and doing everything possible to understand each other. It is a wonderful experience... but it isn't always easy. Then again, anything worth having is worth working for.
A living hell? Only if the two people involved let it become that way.
2006-12-29 02:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was a living hell, then the concept of marriage would have died off a long time ago.
It's like anything. Work can be a living hell. Family can be a living hell. Love can be a living hell. You get the point.
Can marriage be a living hell? Yes.
Is it always a living hell? No.
2006-12-29 02:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by auken_hill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it does depend on who you marry.
If you get to know that person well and you have more in common than difference you will do fine.
If your marriage does become hell than pull the plug.
It takes two to make a marriage work and only 1 to cause a divorce.
Go luck. You should read "Finding the love of your life" big help.
I know it was for me.
2006-12-29 02:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose if you married Dr. Evil it is but for the most part, it is okay. You have your good days and your bad, the way you handle your situation is what makes a marriage. Communication, honesty and devotion to your mate is important. So, NO it isn't living hell. I think people jsut say that when they want another to know they are mad.
2006-12-29 02:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it you decide it's going to be a living hell, then you'll make it a living hell! But it certainly doesn't have to be; in fact a good marriage is the most wonderful thing in the world.
2006-12-31 03:43:01 · answer #11 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋