I should be more spacific. She seems to act like she's keeping me around until something better comes along. I get introduced as her 'friend' rather than her boyfriend. When I write a comment on her website about how she's an awesome girlfriend she deletes it. I feel like she's embarrassed that she's is with me, or that she doesn't want any one else to know she's involved with someone. She hasn't even changed her relastionship status from single to taken on the singles profile site we met on. I know some of this seems petty, but it;s all kinds of little thing building up to this big thing. I just don't want to get hurt.
2006-12-29 02:15:29 · 18 answers · asked by jedi46300 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should just flat out ask her about her feelings and intentions
and share yours. you both then can decide if you are together or if you need to move on. either way you will both be moving forward.
2006-12-29 02:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not petty.
Do you want to be a boyfriend? If so, you do not belong with this particular woman.
She sounds like a creep. Deleting her boyfriend comments on her website? Posting personals ads? Introducing you as "friend"??
If she doesn't want to be in a serious relationship, she should have the balls to come out and say it instead of dropping all these mean hints.
I wouldn't bother trying to "test" her fidelity. That will only make you feel terrible. Just get away from her. You deserve better.
2006-12-29 11:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Sono A ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Yes, it seems from the details that you have given she isn't being forward on her site by saying she is taken or has a boyfriend. I can't imagine why she would delete your post when you state what an awesome girlfriend she is and introduce you as her friend.
I suggest that you call your girlfriend up or when you see her talk to her about this. You need to come right out and ask her whats going on and I don't suggest you sugar coat it either. Ask her : Blank I've been noticing that when I post to your website you delete it and also why do you introduce me as your friend? What do you call our relationship?
You want to ask her open questions so that she gives you details not open shut questions where all she has to do is answer yes or no.
Dont think that your being petty because actually your not, what your doing is wanting to know where you stand in this relationship that was supposed to be boyfriend/girlfriend. And rightfully so you deserve to know because if she thinks differently then you need to move on. If she says she's your girlfriend then I suggest you kindly ask her to show you the same respect you show her.
Now in my opinion aside from my suggestions I think that she is pulling your strings and don't want to be with a boyfriend for whatever reason. I think that she is someone who is wanting to mix and mingle but still try and lead you on. It's wrong of her to do this but listen these things happen and people get hurt because of it.
Do speak with her about this and see what she tells you other than that there isn't a lot you can do other than just tell her exactly what you've said here .. you think shes embarassed to be with you and that you think she is trying to keep you until something else comes along. And you personally don't want to be hurt therefore you willl not bother her anymore and move on.
Trust me there is someone out there for you and who will want to show and tell the world your their boyfriend. Don't stick around for someone who is doing such things as this there is a reason for her behavior and if you want to know why then you'll have to ask her point blank to find out why. If you choose not to even bother then thats great I don't blame you for that either she seems to not care anyway.
Good luck.. go on and find yourself a nice girlfriend who appreciates you.
2006-12-29 10:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What else does this girl have to do in order to show you that she is using you. If you don't want to get hurt then end it now. You have stated she introduces you as her "friend" and deletes your comments on her site. Please don't think this has anything to do with you. Obviously she is looking for lots of men and that's why she leaves her status as single. I wish you the best of luck and GOD bless you.
2006-12-29 10:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, if you think she's just keeping you around til something better comes along, your probably right. What your doing is acknowledging the red flags, your not crazy. it's not petty if those things are important to you. All those lil things are pieces to a grand scheme, and you ,at least in my opinion have correctly filled in the blanks!
2006-12-29 10:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by bess_kept_secrets 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, wake the F*@k up! What is she still doing on the singles site anyway? I think you guys have different perspectives of what you have. You view it as a relationship, she views it as a fling. Do yourself a favor and find a couple more chicks on that site and go out on some dates because that's exactly what she's doing...only with guys (maybe...).
2006-12-29 10:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jookemgood 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then start dating someone else. It's never a good idea to paly games in a relationship. You can see the signs, what lane are you moving into?
2006-12-29 10:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like she is playing the field till she sees if she is going to get all the attributes she is looking for... If I were you I wouldnt be waisting to much time on her, and start looking for your own keeper......
2006-12-29 10:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by supertek109 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't be a puss
use her till you are done with her don't let her be the dominate one in the relationship. she obviously doing that to you.
get a pair man.
2006-12-29 10:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well either she's not the romantic or sweet type or she's bored of you. If you don't want to get hurt then talk to her about it.
Well, you might get hurt, but not as much as finding it out 'accidentally'.
2006-12-29 10:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋