ex wife have right to put child in a hospital for add/wd?

Question

my significent other ex wife of 10 yrs put their son in a hospital for evaluation on add/wd w/o telling father but always has father go get child out of school when their is a problem. she worked 2 jobs when she was employed instead of spending the desperately needed time with child until now when their is a major problem. she recieves child support and soon will be recieving ssd instead of child support and he has no say at all about what is going on. he only has visitation cuz she will not give him joint custody. he can only do so much with the weekends he has him. anyone have any legal advice or any advice court date coming up first of year for full custody of kids. we cannot afford a lawyer.

yes it has everything to do with me because he is coming into our home every other weekend. and the descisions made regarding the child will affect my home life here with them.

Answer 1

I don't know either of your situations other than your significant other is divorced with child so the only thing I can really say is when you're in court try to show the judge that you are able to provide a better home and more love for the child than the mother who works 2 jobs and sticks the kid in a hospital because she can't be around to care for him herself. Also show that you are financially stable and are able to to provide the necessities for the child. I don't see how the judge can't at least award joint custody if the mother is never around.

Answer 2

First of all I'm assuming there's a custody order in place for every other weekend. If there's not a legal binding custody order in place go to your local Domestic Relations office and file for custodial rights. Assuming there is one, Look on the order because most orders like his should state primary custody for the mother and partial custody for the father, but as far as the legal custody it should state legal custody is shared by both parties which means she is not allowed to do anything pertaining to education, medical, or religious aspects of their son's life without first consulting the father. If this is the case, then he needs to file a contempt hearing stating she did this without his knowledge or permission.If he doesn't have shared legal custody then he needs to file to obtain that as well. A contempt hearing should be filed with the Domestic Relations office. As far as not being able to afford representation at the court hearings, if you look in your local telephone directory, in the social services section, there should be some type of listing for legal services even might try the government pages to find listings. Try these numbers to find representation for people who can't afford a lawyer. Just call the numbers and ask if they help people who can't afford a lawyer. Hope this information helps and Good luck.

Answer 3

if you cannot afford legal presentation the best thing to do is go directly to the mother,,having a child with add/adhd and similar disorders is very hard work,,it never stops and she may be resentful of help as if it is a reflection on how well she is coping and this is normal for someone with a child like this,,the feelings of doubt that you are doing the best you can,,is it possible for him to visit her on good easy terms to offer help,,as much for her as for him and his son,,he might just need to find the right words and im sure if any help was free and without judgment it would be appreciated,,only offer what you can actually give or it wont work,,offer to be at the end of the phone if she needs to call,,if she wants you and his father to take him to an appointment,,if she needs a break,,,you have to be aware of what you can give so you dont have to say,,'sorry,im busy', she may have been doing this for so long she feels she needs no help but if put in a way that can make her see it isnt because she isnt doing a good job it is just so your partner can accept dual responsibility for his son and unfortunately his son needs a hell of a lot more care than other children and if she can accept that offer of help it will benefit all of you.

Answer 4

Sounds like its time to go back to Family Court and have the custody arrangement re-evaluated. You say you can not afford a lawyer. Every Family Court has what's called a facilitator who is an attorney who volunteers his/her time. they will help you prepare the paperwork and walk you through the process. Its entirely free.

Answer 5

You cannot afford to NOT have a lawyer. The childs mother has every right to hospitilize her child - it's nothing to do with you. The childs father does have rights (not you) - but he needs a lawyer to represent his best interests.