i have a kid with this guy.. he is really sweet and good looking.. but he cant stop himself being with other women... dating and having sex with them.. i really love this guy.. thats why it hurts a lot to know that he is not conteneted with what i have and what i can give..
2006-12-29 02:10:01 · 20 answers · asked by mS.mYstEriOus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some of us guys just have too much love for one woman to handle.
2006-12-29 02:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by white.devil 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can not change him. 1st he has to have the desire to change. Then if he wants to change he must take the steps toward changing. This has to be what he wants, not what you want for him. I noticed you said that "he is not content with what you can give him." Well maybe he wishes to have the relationship with you, and then whatever else. Like that old expression the cake and eat it too. So then you have to decide what is best for you, and what do you want? According to what you have said he does not share your idea of what a loving and happy relationship is...which is one built on monogamy. Do you wish to continue with things the way they are in the hopes that one day in the future he might want to be faithful? Do you want to move on and find someone that may be faithful? It's all about you, and your decision.
2006-12-29 10:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cant stop himself ?? Did you really say that ? Well if that's your attitude about it then its like your ok with it. The poor guy just cant stop putting his penis in other women. The poor thing. Come on, you need to wake up. A womanizer will never stop doing what they do. I know, my father was like that. A real piece of sh*t. I think women have always had this "boys will be boys" attitude and its showed men that its ok to do the f*cked up things they do. Its because women continue to date and be married to men who are running all around town. Why haven't you kicked his sorry *ss out yet ? I just dont understand. How can you really love anyone who sleeps around behind your back ? You need to require more for yourself and more from the men you date. If not for you, for your kid.
2006-12-29 10:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's an age old question that can't really be answered. This has been happening since before you and I ever existed. Whether a guy admits it or not, his weakness is almost always women! Well, at least one of them. Every case is different; he may truly love you but just need something on the side every now and then to help him maintain his sanity or he may feel trapped and this is his way of venting. He either wants the best of both worlds or he wants out of your world.
2006-12-29 10:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jookemgood 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know nothing holds more true here than "if you can't beat em', join em'"
I suggest you talk to him about it and tell him you would like to share his life totally and don't mind him dating and having sex with these women so long as you are included in the dating and the sex.
sharpen your tounge skills and learn how to munch a good box, your life will be much better for it.
2006-12-29 10:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by bluto blutarsky2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will be men. It isn't what you do or don't have, men crave variety. I personally do not cheat on my wife, but I wish I could have sex with every woman i think about , but i will feel too guilty. Most of my friends go ahead and cheat . I have alot of friends and 90 % cheat. The other 10% just fantasize. If a guy gives you an honest opinion he will tell you the first thing we think about when we see a cute girl is how it would be to have sex with them. so, to answer your b/f isn't gonna change
2006-12-29 10:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by big stan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't change him. You can change your part of this problem. You can set boundaries and expect him to keep them. If he refuses then you have to make you decision about what you will and will not tolerate. People are seldom what they say but are always what they do. So you need to realize you have a right to not be treated this way and if He wants to part of your life you want him to be faithful. May I also encourage you and him seek counseling. You seem to have a very opinion of your self and your self-esteem is greatly lacking please find some one to help you..
2006-12-29 10:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Roger W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change another person. You can provide a set of circumstances that makes them want to change themselves, but that is all!
What you really need to do is decide on your own value and decide on the life you want to live. Does it include a womanising unfaithful boyfriend or not? If not it is best to move on sooner rather than later. The longer you wait the harder it will get.
By leaving him you may provide a set of circumstances that make him want to change his ways.
And - Believe in yourself! You don't need anyone else to be happy or survive!
2006-12-29 10:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ndumbipoint 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't change him and his complete disregard for you and your child and both your feelings should be enough to make you want to move on. Do you want your child to see and grow up with this? Isn't exactly stable and happy. He isn't going to change, he is who he is. Besides, he hasn't got into trouble for it before why should he start caring now? He has his cake and he gets to eat it too, you are the one who handed him the fork and plate.
2006-12-29 10:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by blahblahblah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are women always trying to change guys. He is what he is, either take him or leave him alone. It's as simple as that.
2006-12-29 10:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋