Is being shy a turn off to the women out there. I would consider myself attractive, but ratherly shy when im around women. Sometimes i dont know what to say. I have confidence within myself, and love, appreciate myself. But when it comes to women being around, i just stay quiet. ITS this bad ?
2006-12-29 02:06:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with dani. Shy guys = MMMMM. I'd pick a shy guy over a cocky loud-mouth anyday!
2006-12-29 02:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off let me tell you i find shy guys way attractive. i think shy guys are unpredictable. and i like that. I'm glad you mentioned that you love yourself and appreciate yourself that is a good thing. so women won't be able to take advantage. The key is to love yourself for who you are once you have that for yourself then people will love you. you mentioned the fact that when you get around women you don't know what to say. when you're around women be yourself, talk about what you like and then ask her the same question. if you go into a bar and see a woman sitting alone. go up to the bartender and ask for a beer and then look to your side and say it's a lovely night isn't it. if she answers back then you go in for the kill. then say I'm sorry my name is whatever your name is and ask her hers and then start from there I'm sure you can think of something. being shy is never bad. it's just the way you are. let them accept you for that.
2006-12-29 02:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that being shy is quite a turn on. It's the object of surprise. You have no idea of what will happen if you really get into a good conversation with someone who is shy. I love to meet people and love to start conversations with them. I like to make people feel comfortable around me. If you can make the person feel at ease around you, then the rest is a piece of cake!
2006-12-29 02:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by elainey66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women love shy guys. Just remember if you are really interested in a girl, you need to say something. A lot of girls want the guy to say someting first. It can be something stupid like, "Nice day, isn't?" or even just "Hello, I'm Scott C, how are you?". Just as long as you said something first, you'll be pleasantly surprised at how many women have been waiting to strike up a conversation with you--and see where things go from there.
2006-12-29 02:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by StormyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, but even I know that unless you exude confidence it will be alot harder for you to attract the ladies. Women, and people in general, like people who are confident and sure of themselves. Now, when I say confident, I don't mean conceited or arrogant, but no one finds a doormat attractive. If you have confidence within yourself like you say, then it is time to let it out. Don't worry about what the ladies may think, in most cases they are just as scared as you are. Besides, you only live once and if you spend your whole life in fear of someone or something, that thiong has the tendency to take over your life. In summation, relax, breathe..and most importantly just be yourself, If you build up your confidence..they will come..
2006-12-29 02:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it only becomes a turn off once you have dated awhile and the guy still doesn't seem to open up. Then we get the feeling that maybe the guy isn't as comfortable and that maybe it won't work out. Also, don't keep secrets. I dated a shy guy once and no matter how much I tried he wouldn't open up and just say what he was thinking.
You will find the right woman, somone that will break you out of your shell ~ and probably you to her...
Good luck!
2006-12-29 02:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by I am Crystal S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for all women but I'd say for many, yes, it's a turn off. Shy doesn't = nice guy (though you may be a very nice guy). We want to be able to have great conversations with great ease. If this doesn't happen right off the bat, it's tough to want to keep trying.
Step out of your comfort zone and take some chances.
2006-12-29 02:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Im a little shy myself sometimes, but when I see a shy guy, it's better sometimes than when he is goofing off and acting stupid (no offense to anyone) because THAT will turn a girl off quick, in my opinion. sometimes it's nice to see a shy guy and know he's just an all around nice guy and not an arrogant person or anything. just up your game a little and good luck
2006-12-29 02:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by ♥#1 Miley Cyrus Fan♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let some of those girls confuse you. They think they want a shy guy but really want someone who makes them laugh, challenges them and isn't a big wussy. Trust me, I was shy and a big wussy and alone. I started to watch the cocky&funny guy with all the girls and broke free from my shyness. I was no longer alone and had girls/women giving me their # and email address without me even asking for it!
2006-12-29 02:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of girls here are saying that they like shy men, but the reality is that they invariably go for the gobshite jock-types as they are the ones who make the first move.
2006-12-29 02:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋