I had an issue with trust in the first six months of my relationship when we were first getting to know each other (3 yrs ago) He had been talking to a girl from his childhood catching up and ended up talking to her a lot and almost went on a date with her until I found out He swore he wanted to be with me, he was sorry, he never talked to the other girl again A year later yet another girl from his past called him up, they talked for about a month until I found out. This girl was even dating his cousin so I know it was nothing romantic but he just hid it from me He says he didnt tell me because he thinks I would over-react In June he had an accident and so he goes to the dr weekly. During this time he would tell me all the girls there thought he was cute, we laughed about it. One of the girls quit working there, gave him her number, I found out today that they have been talking on the phone a lot over the past month, with her believing he was single! Should I end it bc of this?
2006-12-29 01:47:28 · 25 answers · asked by Natalie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are with each other Fri-Sun 24/7 so they only talked during the week, mainly on his long ride home from work. He is a very social person- I'm not and he says he just needs a friend to talk to bc I'm so busy I don't talk to him very much etc. Which is sort of true, I hate talking on the phone. He thinks I'm over-reacting since it is just a friend...
2006-12-29 01:49:50 · update #1
i would say yes, as he is not being honest with you,,,, if there wasnt something to hide he wouldnt hide it! plus, since you are finding out, he must not be hiding it too well, and so could be using it as a means to make you upset/insecure /manipulate you etc,,,,,,, i would break up for now, if he matures in the future, consider him again
2006-12-29 01:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YES END IT, what a big dork of a baby! F him, geeze, get a guy with some ethics, tell him you are going to a movie with an ex boyfriend and then never answe a call from him again. You should end it because he is lying to you, keeping things from you and if he is doing that, when he is having sex with them, he wont tell you either because he thinks you may over react. Holy crap, if he cant be trusted with the small stuff, help make you feel comfortable in the relationsip and has to sneak and hide his little girls then he is just a child. When he told you that the girls thought he was cute at the dr. office, that should have been your que to say " are they the first girls that have ever thought you were cute?" Get out and find a grown up that has had a few relationships, some social interactions and has some ethics! Good luck, you sound like you will do just fine!
2006-12-29 01:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How in the world would you ever be able to trust him? Trust is more than a tiny part of a healthy relationship. What else does he hide from you? These are just the things that you know about. Sounds like you are trying to justify it by making excuses for him. He needs to go, do you want to feel like you never really know whats going on. How long can you just laugh things off?
2006-12-29 01:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by blahblahblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...YES!!! The red flag is waving sweetie. This is looking like a pattern for him and if he does this now what's to say being married will stop him? Probably nothing. Some men are just dogs and like the thrill of something new. You have 3 years invested in this relationship and he obviously doesn't respect you at all. As hard as it will be I say move on...you will never be able to trust him
2006-12-29 01:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES. If what you say is true, it is only a matter of time before he cheats on you. He is already cheating with his time, and is trying to make you feel bad by calling you jealous. He has gone after basically every woman that he has been interested in since you got together! If you don't break it off, you will always be wondering if he is cheating on you. That's no way to live. You deserve better.
2006-12-29 01:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by April 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard one... i guess you love him?? and for that reason we all assume its the right thing to stay with him!! but i think trust is THE most importent thing to have in any relationship and if yours lacks it... well i really cant see a future!! you have to do whats right for you!! dont forget there are many other men out there who will treat you right so dont be used!!
Hope the new year brings with it happyness with or without this guy!!
x chaz x
2006-12-29 01:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on. It seems that this has become a pattern for him to talk with another female behind your back. If it was completely innocent he should have told you about it. I know he said that he thought you would overreact but I think this is just an excuse for him not to be in trouble. Good Luck!
2006-12-29 01:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is certainly keeping talking to girls from you, you have every right to be upset if he is keeping it from you. I dont think it is cause to break things off, as long as he is not doing anything else apart from talking though that can lead somewhere else
Let him know that, keeping secrets about talking to girls does not look good even if nothing is going on. I hope he stops
2006-12-29 01:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by jaffarkelshac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well .. to tell you the truth he dont sound like hes very committed to you if hes telling other people hes single and talking to other women on the phone all the time and making dates i would probably break it off and take my losses and move on
2006-12-29 01:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by jazieyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's leading on other women? You've got a problem. If he hasn't
slept with anyone else the relationship can still be saved. If he's been getting some on the side,dump him.
2006-12-29 01:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋