I'm really so confused..can anyone help?i have been hesitating to pass this note to this guy whom i've seen for quite some time..but everyone around me told me that i deserve better and that i shouldn't stoop so low for that guy who isn't even worthy of my attention..but i beg to differ..i feel that even though he doesn't look very friendly..i have this special feeling towards him..a very warm and secure feeling. my sister said that why, as a girl, must i reach that stage of passing a guy my number when i'm not short of suitors..true, i'm not short of suitors but what i'm afraid here is as a girl,i don't have the courage to do so and everytime when i've made up my mind to do it,many other negative thoughts will come in and make me change my mind again.and i'm afraid that if he doesn't respond,my sis will say that i shouldn't have done it and have lost "face" now and making myself sad..i tried following my heart but it's just as confused!
2006-12-29 01:44:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are two possibilities here:
1: You're attracted to him because he is maybe the "bad boy" and unattainable, or he's just not showing interest in you while many others are??
Or
2: You just really like him, whether he is good or bad, available or not, likes you or not.
If it's number 2, then forget what anyone else is saying and go with your gut feelings. Remember, you're a woman and we are supposed to have that special intuition that lets us know whether we should really go for it, or if it's going to wind up hurting us. Sometimes though, when we're caught up in feelings our judgement can be slightly impaired. Don't worry about losing face in front of others. Sometimes you just have to take the leap and do it for the possibility of love...if you fall hard, crash and burn, you wipe yourself off and even though you may be hurt, you'll heal and someone else, better will come along. If you determine it's number 1 and you're just attracted to him because he's a bad boy or whatever reasons, then just remind yourself it's a crush and nothing will ever become of it and even if he did show interest, it probably wouldn't work out for the best. I know it's confusing with so many feelings but try to figure out what's best for you without getting into a bad situation...unfortunately this is how some women get involved with bad men...men who beat them and disrespect them. Best of luck!
2006-12-29 01:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll regret it if you don't at least try. Even if he turns you down at least he'll know how you feel and you'll know you tried. So what if your sister says I told you so, they're just words. Don't tell anyone that you told him, just keep it between the two of you. The worst he can do is reject you. It won't kill you, you'll be better off knowing you at least tried. I asked a guy to prom once that I worried over for months whether or not I should. He turned me down but I knew that if I hadn't I would wonder forever what he MIGHT have said. I got over it, rather quickly I must say and felt dumb for aching for months before I just asked.
2006-12-29 01:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need just think of the pro's and con's on this relationship. If people think that you deserve better you need to think about if you really could be treated better. You need to keep in mind, have he treated his past girlfriends. You really need to take into consideration if you really do like he shouldn't treat you like trash. Follow your heart and good luck!! :)♥
2006-12-29 01:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart & the truth will set u free! {but u need to b willing to tell the truth& not b afraid of what should happen }
2006-12-29 01:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that certain about this guy, then do what you have to do. Wo cares what anyone else thinks? You'll never know if you don't try.
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2006-12-29 01:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋