After meeting the wrong girls in the past I have really started to get to know someone, its strange becasue my head is all for her and my heart is trying to hold back. It's been hurt recently and don't want to fall into the same trap. She asked me not to tard her with the same brush and I am really trying not to. Which one is right and how can i line them both up?
Ps I have never met her in the flesh but in tend to, we speak on the phone regular and have now for 3 months, we seam to get on really well and the more i speak to her the closer I get.
2006-12-29 01:39:43 · 10 answers · asked by sija_uk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know she has been let down her self and for the second time we have sprang together, she can be cold towards. We want the same things in life and I sence a big potental between us. She tells me not to read 100% into it until we meet. She laughs at my sencer of humour has told me secret things. But I fear a kind of a vice that could sepretate us. At the moment there is no claim to her as such so she has the right to meet someone else. I also worry that I would get even closer to her and she might get someone closer to home as i live over 100 miles away.
2006-12-29 01:59:35 · update #1
My head thinks there is something in it,
my heart says you have been down this road before procede with caution and it thinks my head could be right
My dick fancys her but as i don't sleep around and wants what and when is right
As for my Gut it's sitting on the fence for now and saying i'm hungry feed me.
2006-12-29 02:05:45 · update #2
You need to be careful not to take out your anger and hurt from past relationships on her. Dont blame her for others mistakes and don't assume she will make the same mistakes your exes have.
On the other hand you need to make sure you are ready for another relationship, take things slow, if you rush in beofre you are ready than things just wont work out. She should respect that about you if she is serious about making it work. Just let her know that you are working on not taking thinkgs out on her, but she may have to be patient for you to be ready to give her the kind of commitment she may want.
Good luck----Work like you dont need money, Sing like nobodys listening, Love like youve never been hurt, And dance like no ones watching.
2006-12-29 01:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go for a combo of the two.
Don't close your heart up all the way, cause you might miss out on something amazing, but at the same time don't make your self completely vulnerable right away either.
I've had a relationship where I went in it without thinking at all, the guy ended up crushing my heart.
In my current relationship I met up with the guy with the thought that "He might become a great friend of mine!", now 3,5 years later we're married :)
2006-12-29 09:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The clever thing is "love with your brain and think with your heart". These two God-sent organs are given to cooperate! Work together. Only thought without feeling makes damage. Only feeling without thought makes damage too. She is right when she tells you not to tard her with the same brush. Every person is unique. So, proceed tactfully and carefully. Give her and you, a chance. Maybe this will be you lucky time! Wish to.
2006-12-29 09:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable, and natural to hold back.
But also remember that this new person in front of you is someone different, and not your ex. So treat them accordingly.
Always follow your heart and your gut feeling. Your gut feeling is never wrong.
Notice that sometimes you may have made the wrong decisions because you didn't follow your heart, and wish you had...
2006-12-29 09:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Zippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your heart ! but a bit of thinking isnt bad too :-)
my answer is the same confusing as ur question cause its hard to tell .... its most of the time a fight between the heart and the brain.
2006-12-29 10:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your 'gut' feelings, especially a feeling that something or someone isn't right, seriously consider what your conscience is trying to warn you about. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-29 09:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound to me like a spoiled kid, you have not "Met in the flesh" but you are wanting to get into her, you would be better off ringing up one of the professionals on a chat up line and leave this poor girl alone, don't mess up her life by tying her to a ******** like yourself.
2007-01-02 06:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say follow your heart because your head can and might steer you in the wrong direction. When your heart won't.
2006-12-29 09:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Big Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your listening to your head and not your heart!!! You should always give love a chance!!! Getting hurt is part of life - or thats what i have learned!!
2006-12-29 09:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to ur penius....not to ur head nor to ur heart
2006-12-29 09:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋