I don't think it is fair because she has a problem with my son who she is no longer dating that she take it out on me. My son is providing child support she is angry about the amount set by the judge she wanted more. She has moved and I don't have an address nor home phone number for her. And when she wants to vacation and be child free she will call and say he can come over. Would anyone know if grandparents can file for visitation rights of the grandchildren in North Carolina and if so what is the process. I have over $500.00 worth of christmas gifts that I was going to take to my grandson today and was told that I would not see my grandson just drop the gifts off with the other grandmother. I declined that offer and said that if I could not see my grandson then sadly he would not get his gifts. I don't think that I am being unreasonable just tired of taking whatever has been dished out to me about my grandson. Please help a Native New Yorker grandmother know her rights folks.
2006-12-29 01:35:32 · 12 answers · asked by J. M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you have every right as grandparents to request visitation and I do believe the courts will grant it to you. My parents are seeking visitation for my nefew but he lives in Georgia so I am not sure the same laws apply. I have attached a link that I think might help you out. Hang in there and I wish you the best.
2006-12-29 01:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately grandparents do not have any legal rights unless the parents have passed away. I am so sorry that it is that way because children deserve grandparbets in thier lives. Try to talk to the mother and explain that you are separate from your son and that you love your grandson and miss him.. That only your grandson is suffering by not spending time with you and that she should really want him to be blessed with all of his grandparents, especially since he is not blessed with a peaceful 2 parent home at this time. Just try to get through to her. If not her, maybe you can take the other grandmother out to coffee or something and try to voice this to her and maybe she will speak to the mother on your behalf.
God bless you for wanting to be there for him and I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-12-29 03:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by babygyrl_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but the court's do not recognize the rights of the grandparents. Legally speaking, there's nothing you can do. What she's doing in emotional blackmail.
However, you can put down some rules of your own - if you're not allowed regular visits, then the free babysitting is over.
You did the right thing about the gifts.
2006-12-29 02:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and wish things were different but even though there is such a thing as grandparents rights, they are very hard to get and in extreme circumstances. Does your son have visitation? He needs to fight for more time and share with you. Unless you can prove you were a large part of the childs upbringing or your son isn't in the picture and she denied you altogether it will be a difficult case to fight. Contact a lawyer but listen to what he has to say and cost of it. Good luck.
2006-12-29 02:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
empathy, how would you feel if your ex boyfriends mother was doing what you are doing. It is crazy. Grand parents do not have the rights of parents. Why not take advantage of when she wants a break, be kind sweet and supportive, show her that you are grown up and mature, take care of the child, no bad mouthing Mommy, $500 of Christmas presents is STUPID, for goodness sakes, stop trying to buy love, you are a big baby for punishing the child by holding back the gifts, I am disgusted! That is f'dup in the biggest way. now the child thinks you dont care at all about them because you want what you want, when you want it, without regard to anyone elses schedule, feelings or plans and if you dont get your way, you take your ball and go home... who is the baby? GROW UP! Send a modest age appropriate gift to the child and get a grip! Ho HO HO
2006-12-29 01:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is so sad. Shame on the mother of your gran son. I hope you can figure out a way. Do a search for gran parents rights on the Internet. That may help get you some where. Their is a place called gran parents rights organization. Their number is (248)-646-7177. They can help you connect to other gran parents who are experiencing the same as you. Also can give you advice about the best thing to do. Good luck.
2006-12-29 01:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by love me despite it all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be particularly mad too. This mom of the grandson is making the type of enormous mistake. it is your grandson it is being harm in the long-term. i do no longer understand approximately NC yet right here in MI we are able to record for visitation rights and the decide will make up a schedule that the mum would would desire to stick too. this would have no longer something to do consisting of your son and what he will pay for baby help. it may well be a separate courtroom order. verify with a community criminal expert. Ask around to discover a criminal expert it is acquainted with this form of family members rules. i think undesirable for you and can't think of what this form of treatment would be like. My daughter hates her in-rules yet each time they decide directly to take the grandson she we could him go because of the fact as she positioned it "in basic terms because of the fact I hate them I won't enable my son be harm through no longer understanding his grandparents." stable success to you and get a courtroom order. This woman needs to be taken down a notch or 2.
2016-12-15 10:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest speaking with her. Set something up at her mother's home and try to work out things. Keep a record of this and any other things that have to do with visitation. If you have to get an attorney involved, you have a paper trail and that will help him out and get an idea of what he's getting into.
2006-12-29 01:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do would be to contact a family law attorney. I know in my state grandparents can sue for visition rights, but I don't know about other states.
Sorry I couldn't be more help. Good luck!
2006-12-29 01:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by lunartic5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from what i understand i think you are gonna have to take her to court just like your son would but if a judge ordered support he should have an order in place for visitation tell him to check and see and if so she has no choice unless she wants to go to jail and them judges dont play on stuff like that especially if he is not behind
2006-12-29 01:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋