Ok, so this guy and I were dating, things got a tad weird (well he came to see me one weekend (we live in diff cities) and we had a great weekend....if you know what i mean..AFTER this a girl we both know, told him i was telling people we were together as a couple...he backed off and freaked out. WHICH i never said. since than things are def NOT like they were before.) It sucks bc we have known each other since we were little and have a lot of mutual hometown friends. SINCE then we have hung out and talked via email or text, BUT no phone calls from him. is it something i should just let go? I just can't mainly bc of the connection i feel with him though...to catch up to this day- i called him while home for xmas. He was sick and didn't go out, yet did text me saying merry christmas beautiful...is he just trying to keep me in his mind?? I know i sound quite silly, but i just can't shake how i feel about this guy, have not felt like this about anyone since my ex.HELP!
2006-12-29 01:33:50 · 4 answers · asked by PeruvianLi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by had a great weekend do u mean yall hed sex? cuz i thought yall were only friends
2006-12-29 01:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by fuzzy_bubbles_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his safety net. Your not what he wants, but he is comfortable with you. You are in the friend zone, and nothing will EVER happen especially as long as you pine for him.
You cherish the friendship and you want that in a relationship. You confuse close friendship with compatibility. You say you feel a connection, but a connection goes 2 ways. You feel his need for a friend.
You may have not said that you were a couple, but your actions/feelings are probably obvious and it translates to that.
If you can't stop pineing for him, stop communication with him until you have found someone else.
You are destroying any relationship you may have with someone else, and your action will be perceived as hard to get to him. If you have any chance with him this is the way to find out.
Realize if he has this reaction to a relationship with you, then he doesn't feel that for you and probably will never feel more then a "sister" relation ship for you.
Why would you want someone that doesn't want you?
2006-12-29 09:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Computer Dr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he believe you when you say you didn't tell people?
sounds like that other girl was just out to cause trouble, and succeeded. If he is freaked out by people knowing you two are together, then I think he just wanted what he got from you and wanted to keep it secret, because he probably is dating someone else. or at least doesn't want people to know he is with YOU.
Just think that he used you, and soon you will dislike or hate him, and you will stop pining over him.
2006-12-29 09:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truths and maybe the girl who said that you that silly thing maybe she's jealous.it's best telling someone the truths before things get worse and oh i think i need your help on my questions
2006-12-29 09:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋