I don't think it is fair because she has a problem with my son who she is no longer dating that she take it out on me. My son is providing child support she is angry about the amount set by the judge she wanted more. She has moved and I don't have an address nor home phone number for her. And when she wants to vacation and be child free she will call and say he can come over. Would anyone know if grandparents can file for visitation rights of the grandchildren in North Carolina and if so what is the process. I have over $500.00 worth of christmas gifts that I was going to take to my grandson today and was told that I would not see my grandson just drop the gifts off with the other grandmother. I declined that offer and said that if I could not see my grandson then sadly he would not get his gifts. I don't think that I am being unreasonable just tired of taking whatever has beendished out to me about my grandson. Please help a Native New Yorker grandmother know her rights folks.
2006-12-29 01:32:59 · 12 answers · asked by J. M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Visit your grandson when he is with his father. When his father has him, )every other weekend or what have you) that is your time to see him. This is unfortunately what happens when people have babies with people they do not love. Obviously, your son picked a REAL WINNER. She does not have her son'd best interest at heart, but she's the Mom. Hopefully, your son will find a good woman to have the next litter with...
2006-12-29 01:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be really mad too. This mother of the grandson is making such a BIG mistake. It is your grandson that is being hurt in the long run. I don't know about NC but here in MI we can file for visitation rights and the judge will make up a schedule that the mother would have to adhere too. This would have nothing to do with your son and what he pays for child support. It would be a separate court order. Check with a local lawyer. Ask around to find a lawyer that is familiar with this type of family laws. I feel bad for you and can't imagine what this type of treatment would be like. My daughter hates her in-laws but anytime they want to take the grandson she lets him go because as she put it "just because I hate them I won't let my son be hurt by not knowing his grandparents."
Good luck to you and get a court order. This girl needs to be taken down a notch or two.
2006-12-29 01:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been going through the same thing! I don't see how these mothers can do this to their own children yes their own children! They are denying their own children of the love of BOTH GRANDMOTHERS! I would ask your son if I were you to see your Grandson when he has visitation and give your Grandson his gifts then.If I had things to do over again I'd kiss her butt.Just let her call the shots because if you get her upset she won't think twice about stopping all visits with you. She doesn't care about you or your feelings.It may hurt but bend over backwards if you have to.Never say a word against her. She has your grandchild!
2006-12-29 01:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying do not give up on your grandson....none of this is his fault. It must be something in the water in NC, my ex-in-laws do the same thing to my mother. My mother lives in NC as to do my ex-in-laws, but I live in KY, so when my children are visiting their father my mother is put on the back-burner and told the kids aren't there or they don't want to talk, all of which aren't true. She has finally given up and I don't agree with that, but I guess that is the way some people are wired.
I have confronted my EIL's and threatened that if they don't comply then they will not get to see the children as often. It is an empty threat, but it has worked in the past. I do know that there are grandparents rights, but nobody wants to fool with them. Talk to your sons divorce attorney and let him advise you. More than likely the judge will divide your son's time with you guys, but that is about all they will do. It is ultimately the children who suffer when adults become petty, but please don't let him think that he is not worth fighting for, please! Good Luck!
2006-12-29 01:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents have no rights. What the parents say goes. You have no legal right to do anything. I did notice however that you declined to give the gifts for your grandson because you couldn't see him. Aren't you punishing him for what she is doing ? Aren't you punishing him because your son might have made a real bad choice as to the mother of his child ? Dont you think your grandson might be thinking, "Grandma doesn't care about me" ? Your really no better than the mom by what you did.
2006-12-29 01:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
regrettably grandparents have no legal rights except the mum and dad have gave up the ghost. i'm so sorry that it relatively is that way because of the fact toddlers deserve grandparbets in thier lives. attempt to speak to the mother and clarify which you're separate out of your son and which you like your grandson and omit him.. That in basic terms your grandson is suffering with the aid of no longer spending time with you and that she ought to certainly need him to be blessed with all of his grandparents, noticeably considering the fact that he's not blessed with a non violent 2 be sure homestead at present. merely attempt to get with the aid of to her. If no longer her, in step with threat you could take the different grandmother out to coffee or some thing and attempt to voice this to her and in step with threat she would be waiting to speak to the mother on your behalf. God bless you for desirous to be there for him and that i want you all the success interior the international.
2016-11-24 22:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by prochnow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think you've made a mistake in not sending the gifts. Even though we enjoy the person opening the gift, didn't you want him to have them? You've punished your grandson because his mother is a jerk.
As to grandparents rights, to do that you are going to need an attorney anyway so go ahead and find one in your area, they would know.
2006-12-29 01:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are NO grandparent rights to their grandchildren. Had Guardianship given to my wife and I. we had all authority to arrange visitation. Grandparents become outsiders at that point.We were the grandparents on f/Side It Took Two year to get kids out of court from the county.Yes we did give them every other weekend. The Youngest turned sixteen asked to stay with other G/P they Pd Fee's. Day Later we gave up all rights..
2006-12-29 10:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by joeby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also a New Yorker...I don't know the legal part of it, but if your son is paying child support and holding up his end of the bargain, I would suggest appealing to him for help. I'm not sure what your rights as a grandparent are, but I bet he could petition for more visitation. Good luck to you!
2006-12-29 01:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grandparents have rights too!!! call a lawyer you can set visitation with this child !!!!! I'm a single mother i cant stand these stupid immature girls who use these beautiful children as weapons!! people like that dont deserve children. Why is it that when family doesn't want to get involved they are upset but when family wants to get involved theyre still upset. look know your right contact the family probate court in your area speak with someone they are very helpful they will instruct you what to do. you obviously cant work this out with the mother! good luck.
2006-12-29 01:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋