My mother is 77 years old and her pension and social security aren't enough to cover her monthly expenses. It has been like this for the last two years. One of my brothers and I send her money regularly to help her out. My eldest brother can't seem to help out though. I have broached the subject a couple of times and let him know she needs help. He always gives the excuse that he can barely pay his own bills. I happen to know better since I have found out about several expensive purchases he has made for himself.
Mom doesn't need alot but even $50 a month from each of us would ease her burden tremendously. My other brother and I resent the fact that the eldest won't help out and it is lying about his reason. Yet he fully expects his part of her estate when she dies. By the time that happens, none of us will be on speaking terms. Does anyone have suggestions on how to get big brother to step up and help us out with our mother???
2006-12-29 01:18:21 · 4 answers · asked by sunnygirl1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Chances are if he hasn't helped to this point, you are not going to get him to help. He has his priorities, as do you. Don't judge him too harshly as you do not really know his entire situation. As far as any estate is concerned, if your mother needs help now, there is probably not going to be much of an estate to split anyway. How she decides to split it, if there is anything, is her business. Being a memeber of a family does not grant anyone a right to or a lack of a right to any estate. What you give to your mother, to help her out, is not an investment. It is a gift.
2006-12-29 01:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont get him to do it if he hasnt helped out yet. He doesnt care. He knows you and your brother will take care of your mother so he doesnt have to. Just keep doing what you are doing and it will work out. Talk to your mother about a will and it might be that she will not leave anything to him. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-29 01:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your mother said which ever children do not help her out in her old age will get nothing when she dies, her estate included.
2006-12-29 01:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bothering him! Maybe if you annoy him enough he'll come to his senses and help you out. It's his mother too!
2006-12-29 01:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋