I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We used to talk on the computer almost every day and he would often text me. But there have been some changes lately. I mean just the other day he told me that we would just chat once a week and he almost never texts me anymore. I mean the maximum text messages he sends me in a day is 3 and there are even days that he doesn't send any. It's like he's not missing me. I talked to him about this and he told me that I shouldn't get mad when we don't chat. Is he losing interest or is he just too confident that I won't break up with him even if he doesn't talk to me for weeks? I mean almost all guys are like that, after several months in a relationship they're no longer as diligent with their girlfriends as they were during the first 2 months. Do i have to be more patient about him talking to me only when he wants to or should I not mind it at all?
2006-12-29 01:16:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do think that after all this time, he is not missing you like he once did. But, all that you can do is return his messages and texts and enjoy the conversations that you do have. In the meantime, spend time with your friends, your family and doing things that make you happy. And in the long run, if he does move on (or if you choose to) you will have lots of things to fill your time and keep you happy and you won't miss him a bit! :-)
2006-12-29 01:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fisrt off long distance releationships are difficult to begin with. I would send him a privete email telling him how you feel. Explain to him that you need some sort of contact from him at least once a day. Tell him you know that he's busy but if he really wants to continue your releationship he needs to contact you by email, text, or phone call, at least once a day. Try to keep it cool. Don't come off to strongly in the email. You don't want to make him mad. Guys are difficult to read. Maybe send him a few cute pics of yourself with a little love note saying that you miss him. It will just show him how much you want the releationship to work. Good luck and don't forget happy new year.
2006-12-29 01:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a proven fact that women talk almost 3 times more than guys do. He's probably just tired of trying to converse with you over a screen. You both need to get a real world friend and spend some quality time with them instead of on the computer and stuff.
2006-12-29 01:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the risk of a long-distance relationship. My advice for you is to start finding ways to fill yourself up and to not take his not texting you too personal. It is very likely one of you may meet someone else or you may even just move onto to other things. Just make sure to tell yourself that you are the most important thing in your life.
Peace out!
2006-12-29 01:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by renew69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that after a year of (online) dating that they do begin to lose interest and start finding other ways to 'make due' with their 'needs'. Men have needs of lust and women have needs of emotional fulfillment that men NEVER understand.
Ask him straight out if there is someone else, ask him to be honest, (if that is possible) And you need to move on gracefully when he dumps you. Find someone OFF LINE who understands what emotional needs are! ~joni
p.s. Take into consideration that the younger the guy, the more easily he is swayed by his 'needs'.
2006-12-29 01:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by jonismuse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.... it is obvious that he is loosing interest in the relationship already... you said it yourself, they no longer become diligent after months of being together... how much more in your case that you are in a long distance relationship.
2006-12-29 01:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships don't often work. If there's not a body there to hold it's hard to stay warm. It would be very easy to loose intrest while in a long distance relationship.
2006-12-29 01:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by from me to you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships NEVER work. You can't compare the situation to being in a relationship with somebody in the same city.
2006-12-29 01:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by white.devil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may be losing interest. Long distance relationships are not for everyone. Why not try dating someone who is closer to where you are.
2006-12-29 01:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought he was seeing someone else, but then I got bored with you before I could finish reading the question. Now I think he is just sorting his belly button lint as an alternative to suicide or breaking up with you.
2006-12-29 01:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Eric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋