need some ones opinion about depression.?

Question

Im 17. For the last 2 years, i have been constantly up and down with my emotions. From just feeling sad to worthless. My mum died when i was 12. I never really mourned her death at all, but never relate it to my mood swings, cos its the last thing on my mind. Im not unstable, and most people see me as a happy person. Im always there to help my friends. I have many friends that are always there for me, but i always feel guilty. I used to cut, just small things. It was always when i was in a group of people, i just went off and did it. I always have a mood swing when im in a group of people. I have not been on medication at all, and my parents dont know that this is how i feel sometimes. I dont like getting attention in a sense, and i dont want people to have to act differently aorund me, i feel like i have control but it just seems to be getting worse...i just feel like i need somene else opinion on this situtuation...

Answer 1

Well first of all it sound's like your very hard on yourself. Just the fact that you mentioned the loss of your Mother tell's me that you must really be hurting from this loss. That is very normal. You also mention your parents so someone must have stepped in to take care of you. You may not have grieved yet. You mentioned that losing your Mother is the last thing on your mind however having suffered such a tramautic experience at such a young age I bet it's still right there with you all the time. That's o.k. and very normal. You just have to learn to deal with the grief. Cutting is not o.k. I know it's feels like a relief however this is a sure sign that you need to talk to someone and let them know what you are doing. If you are not at a point of telling someone then maybe make a trip to Barnes and Nobles or Border's and get a self-help book on grief and on counseling. Keep a journal of the times that you cut and what happened right before. I know I used to deal with great anxiety when I was around crowd's socially cause I felt I was less then. Even though everyone seemed to like me I didn't feel like I deserved to have friend's or any attention. You DO deserve to feel better and not punish yourself. Good luck to you and please try to help yourself through research of your symptoms or help from someone you know. You may feel relieved just telling someone you know what your going through. '-)

Answer 2

Some people say that it's normal for your age, but I believe that if it bothers you enough to write about it here, then it's bad enough that you should seek help in some way.

There are so many causes for depression. Some are purely thought-process related and can be helped by talking to a therapist. Other problems are physical problems, chemical imbalances, sleep related problems, environment, chronic pain, etc....

Don't be okay with being unhappy. Swallow your pride, talk to your parents, see a therapist (talk) or psychatrist (medicine).... If you aren't getting the answers you need, then just keep looking until you do. It's taken 4+ psychaitrists to start getting my depression under control. I've had major depression for over 3 years, and just in the last month I've discovered that I suffer from sleep apnea. Sleep apnea causes very poor quality of sleep and could be a major contributor if not THE cause for my depression (still waiting on test results). So there is an example of people telling me I was just lazy and that it was "all in my head", and it turned out to be an actual physical problem, not just something I made up.... Some people, especially those who do not have first hand experience dealing with depression, will kind of stick their noses and give you the high-and-mighty "you're just lazy, and you just need to snap out of it" look.

Others like me are out there than can understand and sympathize, because we know it's for real. It's hard to track down, but stick with it. It could take years, but once you have that AH-HA moment, it's great. In your case, you might only need a simple anti-depressant to help. It wasn't so simple for me, but I'm still trying. Good luck!!!

Answer 3

At age 17 it's not unusual to have "roller-coaster emotions but if you are still grieving your mom and have not resolved issues about her death, it can have a pretty dramatic effect on your emotions, still. Hurting yourself, while it may feel like it gives temporary relief from the pressure, is NEVER a good enough solution.
Please ask for help. Talk to your parents or school counselor or a teacher you trust. If there's a help-line in your town, call and find out what services are available. If there's a hot-line, please call it next time you feel like you have to hurt yourself. If there's not a hotline, set up with someone you trust that you will call them before cutting. Be nice to you.

Answer 4

Hey dude , dot even worry about what you are going through, I remember when I was your age, It was the most screwed up time in my life, your hormones are raging and it tot totally affects your train of thought. Its tuff being that age man. The best thing to do is try to keep yourself busy, like get a new job or a sport or a g/f and focus your energy in a positive way. Your not alone . All the kids are feeling it some just more than others.
hang in there, think positive and be thank full for your life.

Answer 5

It could be that you are just being a typical teenager or it could be that you need help. The fact that you are cutting concerns me and indicates that you need help. Everyone has mood swings. However, people with depression and other illnesses have mood swings that are wider than others. The highs are higher and the lows are lower.

I've had problems with depression and mood swings for years. It started when I was about your age and I did not get treatment until I was 39. I hope you can get help now so that you don't have to deal with this problem as long as I did. Talk to your parents and ask them to get you to a doctor or a therapist.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Mood swings is common side effect of food intolerance! The main culprits are Dairy products, wheat and nuts but we can all react to something different! OR it might be due to not stable blood sugar levels.The only thing I can suggest you to do as you dont wont to draw attention is to cut down the above mentioned allergens for real and for a month and see if any changes will be there, after cutting them you have to cut down the sugar and all sugary drinks like coke ..sprite, chocolate etc. Eat lots of fresh fruit and vegetables app. 5 a day and drink plenty of fresh water with low sodium content (max 5). If Nothing change (but you should start read all labels as most of the ready foods contain dairy or wheat and nut products) youll have to visit Nutritional Therapist or do the york test for food intolerance. Also write yourself for any Martial arts classes theyll give you the knowledge how to control your body and mind. (preferably Aikido, Thai Chi)

Answer 7

Please, please let your parent(s) know what is going on. They cannot help you if they don't know there is a problem. I have also dealt with anxiety for many years, and have found "normalcy" with medication (Prozac..for 5 years now)...turns out I had low seratonin levels in my brain. Could possibly be the same with you. Please ask for help! There is no shame in it, nor does it have to become a "common fact" among your peers...no one has to know that you have sought help.
The fact that you have used cutting tells me this is more than just being "a teenager".
Please seek help....NO ONE should try to deal with this alone.
I'm praying for you and hope you find the help you need.

Answer 8

Talk to your parents.
They are your best friends and always there to help.

Answer 9

I know how you feel. Please get professional help, you will feel better in time, trust me. Take care.