I have met this great lady. We get on well together and it is beginning to get serious.
She got married after an unexpected pregnancy. Her daughter is now 2 years old.
Her husband turned out to be a jerk - they are now divorced.
I know that she likes me but im worried that it is just too complicated a sisutation to make it work longterm. She rows with her husband over maintenance etc.
I dont have a fortune but i do have a good job etc and could provide a house etc for her and her daughter. Sometimes i worry that this is what really attracts her to me.
Can this type of situation ever work out?
2006-12-28 22:54:04 · 7 answers · asked by Pa J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
follow the heart ,you sound like you luv her ,give it a chance and always be honest,let her know yourn fears
2006-12-28 22:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by matty60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mom myself, although my kids are grown. When they were small, I would've given just about anything to have a decent guy like yourself come into my life. Yes, I think it can work. Hopefully her husband being a jerk hasn't blinded her to the possibility of finding a caring, responsible man. The arguments over maintenance will continue as long as her ex-husband shirks responsibility. You have to decide it this is something you can live with. Also, as for knowing if all she's after is your house, money, security, etc., you should be able to tell after you've dated a while. Good luck to you. Hope things work out.
2006-12-29 07:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by pvpd73127 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything can work if you are willing to work at it. No matter what--love should win out over all. You better think long and hard about all these details--eventually they may not be so easy to overcome---Personally, I don't like the sound of it...and I don't want to be around some guy who doesn't like taking care of his child---may be a big time disaster---move on --it's not your kid
2006-12-29 07:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start and maintain a relationship you have to be 100% sure that your feelings are honest and true.
Ask yourself if you want a long term relationship with this women, If you are ready to take on a child, and if this is going to make you happy. There is no point in getting into it if you know you are just going to leave. She obviously doesnt need anymore heartache and you wouldnt either.
2006-12-29 06:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by caboodles111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The differences between her and her ex should be worked out before before marriage is considered...If not ,,there will be trouble ahead...As far the maintenance...She should try to solve the problems without his help..unless it's court ordered for him to do so...
2006-12-29 07:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound very nice. i am a single mum and all my boyfriends have been horrid. she's lucky to have you, and of course it can work out.
2006-12-29 06:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can work if she likes good guys like you.
2006-12-29 06:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by kim j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋