ive been split from my ex for about 2 mnths, we havent been talking for about a week but some things have gone on in my life and im not sure whether to tell him or not as he doesnt want nething to do with me anymore. we were best friends before we got together and always said that we would be friends after but im obviously not worth that. Do you think i should tell him or just let him get on with his life and be happy?
2006-12-28 22:29:22 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
more importantly you need to get on with your life and be happy. Do whatever it takes to get over him and be happy again. Don't listen to music that reminds you of him, put everything that reminds you of him out of sight. Do things for yourself that make you feel good. Get a new hair cut, manicure, or buy a great new outfit, anything to give your self esteem a boost. Then go out and try something new, something you have never done before. These are all things I use to do after a break up and I would feel great.
2006-12-28 22:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask myself why he doesn't want anything to do with me.
What happened in our relationship to cause this bitterness?
Was it a misunderstanding or something that you said or did?
It's not a question of whether you're "worth" his friendship, it's a matter of defining what happened to change it.
If you can identify the cause then I think that you should at least make an attempt to restore at least your friendship. If he won't talk to you try writing to him and have a mutual friend deliver it to him at worst case mail it. You can only control your actions. If you make the attempt to resolve the issue and he does nothing than you can be satisfied that you tried and move on. When you see him be friendly, time has a way of healing things. If he doesn't come around now maybe he will change his mind and value your friendship again.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 22:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; he is obviously not a friend anymore so move on. Unfortunately when a man says he still wants to be friends after a break-up what he really means is he does not want any animosity and for you to think he is still marvellous; what a woman means is that they will reamin in touch, swap confidences and get together now and again in the way she does with her famale friends. As you can see there is quite a difference in male and female definitions and as long as you remeber that you will be able to move on from any relationship more quickly and easily; it has nothing to do with you being 'not worth it'.
2006-12-28 22:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the problem when friends become something more I'm afraid. With the best will in the world it is rare for people to really become 'just friends' after a romance.
I would suggest you resist your urge to still have him in your life. By the sound of it he is still angry with you anyway. It may be that at some future point the friendship might re-emerge, but it doesn't sound likely at the moment.
Yes, let him go.
2006-12-28 22:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can give it a shot but I suggest that you must make it a closure between you with no other possible romantic intentions like bring bring back what you have. With that closure, let go of him and yourself too. Free yourself from the pain and move on. You deserve more that what you have now and had with him in the past; even if you were both best of friends friends. It's time to move to a new life.
2006-12-28 22:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be silly almost never do best friends start dating then continue being friends after a relationship, what ever happened between the two of you happened. let it go and move on. if you need to tell someone about whats going on in your life I'm am sure that there are plenty of people you can trust to talk with.
2006-12-28 22:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rooster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your position before and I know how you're feeling. Since he has made it clear that he doesn't want to have anything to do with you anymore, it is best that you move on too. It is tempting to get in touch with him etc, but control yourself or you might end up regretting your actions. If he thinks you are not worth being friends with, then it is his loss, not yours. There is so much more out there waiting for you. If he can be happy, so can you!
2006-12-28 23:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by ms_shorea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he made it pretty clear that he no longer wants to be a part of your life - so you should respect his wishes and leave him be. During your friendship and relationship you only wanted him to be happy - why should that change just because his priorities have changed?
Whatever has gone on with you may have a big effect on you, but if he's no longer a part of your life, there's no reason why you need to inform him unless it directly effects him.
Busy yourself with your friends and family, and you'll soon find new and interesting things to fill the time you used to spend on him.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 22:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The latter, let him get on with his life and be happy. Its the thing to do, you obviously have done things your not proud of but on the other hand if he cares he will understand. Maybe it can be just that in the future just friends, can YOU be happy with that? Don't forget none of us can throw stones we aren't perfect and have done things in our life also but just keep on trucking all will be good again. Live in the future not the past....
2006-12-28 22:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still wanna try and be friends with him talk to him and tell him that you miss your friendship being able to talk to him about stuff that is going on in your life. But what are you going to do if he doesnt want anything to do with you, its going to hurt you more so its up to you. You have nothing to lose though so you could just go for it and tell him you want to be mates if he says no, then nothing will change cause you aint talking anyway but if he says yes then you have what you wanted.
2006-12-28 22:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Carlie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋