I love my girlfriend, but I fantasize at times about finding someone who I'm more attracted to, and will be more compatible with in the long run...she has helped me though, in a HUGE way in my life and I would not be where I am without her. A part of me is wondering, but I feel guilty even considering it. Should her contribution to my life being successful be one of the main reasons that I don't break up with her if things go wrong, and I want to move on? Do I owe her my committment because she helped me get back on my feet? It is going great now, but I want to be with her for LOVE and not obligation, and since I'm feeling guilt about even questioning leaving her, it makes me freaked out that I might end up staying with her, even if I don't love her...which I now very much do.
2006-12-28 22:00:26 · 8 answers · asked by STY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to remember that fantasies are normal, but they are not love. The grass is not always greener on the other side. Make a list of reasons why you love her. Make a list of your fantasies. Are your fantasies realistic?
At the end of your question, you answered it. You asked if you left her because or ended up staying with her if you didn't love her, but you said you do love her.
You should sit down with her and have a honest heart to heart conversation with her. Tell her how you feel about her. As a couple in any relationship you should have honesty and be able to communicate your fears, your fantasies, your dreams, etc. See how she feels. Once you communicate with her, you may feel much better about where you are headed and you may feel closer to her. You obviously have a long history together and you shouldn't just throw it away for some fantasy of being with someone else. That person may be totally horrible for you. You can make this relationship come to life in a new way by doing romantic things. Leave notes for her to meet you somewhere. Make a date night like when you met for the first time. Make your romance come alive again and you will grow closer and stronger. You can make it work, if that is what you decide. Best wishes to you. Happy New Year.
2006-12-28 22:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling obligated to stay in a relation will never promote a healthy relationship
2006-12-28 22:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by ojsaccomplice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship are not made in a day. They are made with compromises, sacrifices and giving affection. I think she deserves all the cudos and needs to be reciprocated. You should change yourself and should not act mean. You will not get any one better than her. Love her.
2006-12-28 22:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres the dilemma...do you want to be in a relationship you dont want or do you not know whats best for you. my advice to you is to go to someone you know intimately who isnt afraid to tell you the truth about yourself and compare their opinion with yours.
2006-12-28 22:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry about it when you fall out of love with her. You will know what to do.
2006-12-28 22:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be a moron to think of leaving if you are where you are becuse of your gf.
2006-12-28 22:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her now, what makes you so sure your love wont last.
2006-12-28 23:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont love her then break up!! its not fair on both of you
2006-12-28 22:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋