I am blowing up in my business, and I'm getting a lot of attention that I've never had from women and I'm loving it...except that I'm not single. I'm with a great girl, and I love her...but I'm feeling trapped at the same time. She is the best, but I'm afraid I might not be ready to commit to the next level. Help, because I don't want to lose her.
2006-12-28 21:21:55 · 19 answers · asked by STY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mr. Are you asking this question for fun ?
What do you mean that you don't want to be trapped. If she is really great girl, what is the point in loosing her, you said it yourself. Why be an idiot and do something silly and regret later. If you think she is good, don't be afraid of commitment. What if you have a bad time tomorrow, you will have someone good with you.
Take my advice, do everything to keep this alive.
2006-12-28 21:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Infinite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way, would you be getting all this attention from women if your business wasn't booming? She was there for you before all your success.
I think it's natural, especially in America, to always want the 'next best thing', and it's easy to get caught up sometimes in all the excitement and attention. But if you really love her and you don't want to lose her then enjoy the attention but don't act on anything.
I tell my boyfriend that I know he's going to check out other women at times, just don't do it in front of me! So just be respectful to her by staying faithful, because this new found attention won't last forever, and she loved you first, before all of this.
2006-12-28 21:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by Quintessa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't have your cake and eat it too, as the old saying goes. Either you're ready for the next level, or you're not. If she's so great, what's holding you back? That the grass might be greener on the other side? The grass only gets so green.
2006-12-28 21:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her.
Or get yourself some therapy.
You may be somehow blocked and it may help you move on.
But my honest opinion is that when one feels trapped in a relationship (no matter how perfect) it means one hasn't had some things done. Sex, fun etc.
I'm sure you're having great sex and lots of fun with your girlfriend but all the things are better when you're free...
You must choose, it's either her or your freedom, you can't have both and you can't ask her to wait for you till you're done fooling around...
2006-12-28 21:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by Vette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhh how very, annoyingly... TYPICAL!!!! Wants the cake and eat it to syndrome!! One of 3 things... 1/ You'll be an asshole, cheat on her, and lose her. 2/ You'll be honest, see these other girls, then want her back after all cuz the, "grass wasn't greener" and still lose her...3/ You don't REALLY love her, and need to be single again. THINK about what you really want dude!! I'm betting on option 3.
2006-12-28 21:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may grow to be a lesbian. yet of direction ask your self precisely what form of fellows you're going for? ninety 5% is far too severe. perchance you're going after a definite form of guy (character, character, looks, and so on) and you keep getting burned. i be attentive to a girl who concept each and every guy replaced right into a participant, she stopped relationship yet that did not somewhat help her. her situation replaced into that she continuously went out with the nice and cozy men and rejected those that weren't so warm.
2016-12-11 18:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, this poor lass has probably supported you and now she's in the way...You love her, you don't want to lose her, but you can't commit?
These 'bling' girls had no interest in you before and aren't worth the cost of a meal, believe me. The roots of their peroxide hair are always lurking.
Your girl is worth ten of them. Realise that freedom isn't all it's cracked up to be
2006-12-28 21:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
For God's sake! Be a MAN! You know by now what it is you want. Your girlfriend or the little tail flitting in your office. Make a choice! Then pay the price.
2006-12-28 21:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sloe3D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't go for it, you'll regret it forever and if you marry miss perfect, you will always hold it against her. If you leave her to persue your immature lust then you will lose her and regret it for the rest of your life. Seems like a lose lose to me. Go buy a book on getting away with cheating. Then you can have your cake and eat her too.
2006-12-28 21:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Enjoy the attention, but if it turns out that you want more, then tell ur girl before you do cheat and break her heart.
2006-12-28 21:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by sephra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋