2006-12-28 20:26:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well you can tlet them get away with it now can you?
2006-12-28 20:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by smokingstonersweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right, they will turn rebellion!
Parenting should start right from the moment the child start moving on their bellies to catch up with some thing and start hitting hard until it breaks!
The child's mother (not the baby sitter or the maid servant) is the best person, who can inculcate good habits in their child, with politeness and dedication.
When child steps in to their teens, they are more ruled by their peers than their parents. If the parents pay more attention to their children, when they are in their boy/girlhood, it would be much easier for them to mend their children in the right path until they cross their teens. Especially, in studies, they would do well inspite of all tantrums.
The question is to confront the children or not?
Confront the children not as an enemy but as a friend!
Hear to their problems patiently until they are completely steamed out. Then speak to them, at first, as if you are agreeing to their views and slowly turn the table by giving your views as an option and leave them to decide.
They may not immediately follow your views. If they come across failure, inspite of your advices, share their sadness and observe silence, instead of pointing out your caution made to them.
It hurts the children when you don’t try to take credit for your correct advises. They start doing introspection and realize their mistakes and start turning to your side slowly.
Occasionally, approaching a problem emotionally (crying / weeping / sobbing) pays better dividends, particularly by the mother.
Make the children feel that their contribution is mandatory to tide over the difficult situation at home, instead of making a scene that every thing is fine at home and u don’t want to burden them at all. It is a big mistake many parents do not realize this in the beginning. When they realize, by that time, all the irreparable damages are done.
Children are expected to behave rebellious; it is a good sign of growth as well! But, they should be saddled and brought under control by your advises with enormous patience and diplomacy!
2006-12-29 06:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Shooting stars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it the positive way. You should not confront but communicate to your children that you want them to grow as decent and responsible persons and therefore would succeed in the future and that if they want that to happen they have to do what is right. Play with them first or stay with them and show them that you care for them by wanting to spend time with them, then when they are in the right mood, that is the time you suggest gently what you want them to do. No need in a confrontational and authoritative manner. Children especially teenagers ,respond more to warm encouragements than by harsh words. Good luck.
2006-12-30 04:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't they already rebelling? If you don't want the bad behavior to continue then I would suggest you nip it in the bud. As with everything else in life you have to pick and choose your battles with children. If they are doing something that doesn't bother you and is safe for them then maybe you can let them get away with it. But if its in any way not safe for them then you should stop it now.
2006-12-29 04:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should confront. check the behavior at the first instance. the rebellion behavior will occur only if u blast them on the first instance. they would think before repeating if u check them very firmly but polietly......... maintaining their self respect and in case of a repitition, remind of your reprimand wen they first did. i dont think that you will require a reprimand third time.
AS WELL MY FRIEND... DO NOT INTERFERE IN THEIR RESONABLE PRIVACY IF THEY ARE TEENS OR PRETEENS.... THEY ARE SURE TO BE REBELLIOUS FOR LIFE.
2006-12-29 12:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by dalal h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nip it in the bud. Lay down the law and stick to it. Children will rebel in one way or the other, so it's up to you to set the limits. Set your expectations high and tolerance bar low. The bar is low knowing that they will push it, they will wind up rebelling in a lower bracet of risky behavior.
2006-12-29 06:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't confronted bad behaviour in your children yet chances are they are so wild now you will suffer. You better start now and start making things right.
2006-12-29 04:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? You are in a lot of trouble if you don't confront it as it happens
You are there parent not there best friend, I think i've seen you in the grocery store lol
2006-12-29 08:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends what works for you. the more laws you more the more are broken. but if you dont make rules they'll have no sense of right and wrong. you could just tell them you use their better judgement and scold them if they do something stupid thoughtless or bad
2006-12-29 05:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by hrrrrrrlhghglhghgghbhgb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk 2 them about it!
2006-12-29 04:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't discipline them, their behaviour will escalate until it's the police who are doing the disciplining.
2006-12-29 04:27:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋