well last night my bf whent to hes best m8s house who is also a guy,hes best m8s gf was over to and when my bf phoned me up i got well pissed off cause he seemed distracted by hes best m8 and hes gf.and he might be going there for new years days.one of my m8s invited me out to go to a pub but i have no id to prove im 18.i havent got a passport,driving licence but im going to get a id card.i dunno if im just jealous my bf having fun and im not.
also i try to make new friends but people just seem to not wont to be my friend.plus i have a trust problem cause my ex best m8 who i throught was my friend bulyed me for ages and another girl who i brought was my friend did the same as my best friend did.i dunno why people wont be friends with me.
2006-12-28 20:23:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-28 20:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well that is a hell of alot of issues you have there all rolled into one question!
Why are you jealous of his mate's girlfriend? Can you not spend time together as two couples?
You need to build up your confidence because you sound terribly insecure and needy (men are often put off by this)
You will push your boyfriend away if you are too jealous and possessive with him.
You don't need to spend every day together, make sure the time he spends with you is light hearted and fun so he'll keep coming back for more.
With respect to making friends maybe you are coming across as too needy and desperate, you can't push friendship it just develops. Make it your new year resolution to take up a hobby of your own where you will meet people, make it something that interests you eg) evening classes, kick boxing, salsa dancing etc.
Good luck x
2006-12-28 20:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about how you would feel without him in you life??
i have just been dumped by my boyfriend of 3 yrs because i was exactly the same as you!! didnt like the idea that he could have fun without me. and i got the hump if he said he'd be home at 8 and didnt come home until late(we had a house together). i look back now and those things seem so pointless, he wasnt asking for much just some time with his friends and now i have lost the one person i cared and loved so much about. its still fresh for me its only been 3 weeks since we split but i found out since he's been seeing someone else and they been back at my house that im still paying for. the house i dont care about it cuts me up that i lost the best thing in my life all because i wanted to spend more time with him and now i dont get to spend anytime with him.so plz think about it hard before you make any decisions, because i wouldnt wish anyone to go through what im going through at the moment, if you love him, then you need to give him that space to keep him otherwise he will resent you for it. good luck
2006-12-28 20:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to build trust, your BF needs to give time to his mates as well as you but if you think he is not spending enough time with you or taking you out; than maybe you should sit down with him and talk about it. You don’t need to be jealous, maybe you have had trust issues in the past but you have a life now so try making the most of it.
Good luck xx
2006-12-28 20:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion if your bf is going over to his friends house, and the friends girlfriend is there, why cant you go? I could see it if it was "guys night" but if other girls get to be there, he shouldnt be leaving you home with nothing to do. Maybe its not jealousy, but hurt that you werent invited. Especially on new years eve, your bf should want to be with you as well as his friends. Of course you need to give him time for his friends, but I think he needs to spend more time with you. After all, you are his gf and if he doesnt want to hang out with you then find a guy who will.
2006-12-28 20:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds really sad but think of it like this - would you really like a bf who had no independence and relied on you to always be there for him? If he is like that then breaking up with him would be seriously hard. And if he's not gettting to do usual guy things like hanging out with his friends then he won't like you for it. Maybe try talking to him and explaining that you want him to put some time aside for you to go out to places you can definitely get into. If you tell him you don't mind him hanging out with his friends he'll really appreciate you for it.
2006-12-28 20:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by l04i16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your bf is trying to make you jealous, he phones you then acts distracted, you should of tryed doing the same thing back to him, dont worry about other girls especially the ones who see how he treats you, they want nothing to do with him. New Years is special, if he does not ask you to go with him, i myself would end the relationship. that is a low thing to do. good luck
2006-12-28 20:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to hard!!! no need to be jealous of your bf... if you don't trust him then why are u with him? you go out and have fun show him what he is missing!
and u will make friends, just don't trust people to easily and don;t let people walk over you!!! then u will only have true friends!
good luck!
2006-12-28 20:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by MiZz RuBy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Your the girlfriend right? So just talk to him about it. Maybe you guys should just hang out more.
2006-12-28 20:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by lil_nice_guy72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just fink ..... he is ure boyfreind :) so b proud ov that , he wudnt b ya bf if he didnt want to b so dont try so hard , its natural to b jelous in ure case just shows u care but still talk to him bout it x
2006-12-28 20:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they r jealous of u having a bf and they do not and maybe they seem proud of themselves without any reasons.who knows?!
2006-12-28 20:34:45 · answer #11 · answered by glossygal123 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋