Let's assume all couples are married at 18.
2006-12-28 20:21:59 · 16 answers · asked by Hank Hill 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
So I was reading that a lot of people said "when you are mentally, physically and financially ready" but, while I get what they are saying, I think this is a bad way to phrase it.
I don't think anyone is truly ever ready for kids, even if they have planned for years, you always find that you were not ready for something emotionally and there is never really enough money.
While I think this is good advice I think you should think more about weather or not you can really do a good job and make sure that your motives are in the best interest of the child and not for some other reason and decide for yourself if you think that you can provide a good home for this child where they will be loved, cared for, and raised in a balanced manner that will ultimately lead to a productive, socially enabled, and happy adult... Can you willingly give of yourself completely and put the needs of this other being utterly and completely before your own or anyone else's even on your bad days and realize that you will always and forever worry and hurt for and guide and celebrate this person (at least if you are a good parent).
You will always feel some trepidation and concerns but honestly it is up to the individual (don't you just hate that kind of vague answer). However, if I had to put a number to it I would pick something older just because you need to have life experience but I am not sure that I can, in good faith, really pick a number because I know some people in their 30s who I think should never have kids AT ALL while I have known people around 23 who made excellent parents.
2006-12-28 21:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by la_thumpera 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hello hank, tell peggy I said hi.
anyways. People used to have kids when they were younger than that. Getting married at 16. I am not saying that is something to do, but that is what alot of older people have done. I know my mom got married when she was 18, still is married. These days people say 18 is too young to get married. How can they say that when alot of them got married at that same age?
I think when they want to have kids is the age to have them. People mature differently, you can be the same age, but have a different maturity level. Therefore not be ready to have kids. If you have never had a job, or with someone who has not either... you don't know responsibility....probably not a great idea to have a family yet. If you know responsibility, are mature enough, and want a kid....then have one.
2006-12-29 01:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When they feel ready. We started at 18 (unplanned). But things went well (he's military) so we continued with kids until we reached our ideal size, then stopped. By 22 I had 3 births and he'd gotten a vasectomy (23). People thought we were nuts to have them so young and to get the snipping, but it worked great for us.
If they are married, stable, think they can make it financially, then go for it. Age shouldn't matter as long as they can pay for their kids instead of expecting government hand-outs.
2006-12-28 20:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best time to have children is when the "want to be parent" decides that they are willing to make BIG sacrafices for the sake of their child. When the person decides that they are willing to give up their own wants and desires for the sake of another. When a woman decides that it doesn't matter if she gets stretch marks, a little tummy, or will probably vomit for most of nine months and develop bags under her eyes from not sleeping. WHen the man decides that he doesn't have to play golf or go hunting (Or pick a hobby ) every weekend. When the man decides that he loves his partner enough to get up in the middle of the night and hold her hair when she is throwing up, or get up in the middle of the night to help feed or change a child. When the man decides he can love his partner no matter how icky those stretch marks look, how much weight she gains, and how many bags are under her eyes. WHen you can commit to these ideas... then you are ready to start a family.
2006-12-28 23:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mckayla M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I myself would to have all of my children before the age of 30 so whenever I have grandchildren I wont be old. I also don't want to start having kids until after 25 so that I can say I got all they partying I needed done with and have no regrets about not being able to go out.
2006-12-30 10:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by ldalderete 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age isn't a big factor. Whenever the couple is ready... physically, mentally, financially... There are a lot of things to look at.
2006-12-28 20:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by *Tee*Tee* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be financially secure as this is very expensive. But most of all you have to be mature enough to pass on things you normally do and put your kids first always. A lot of patience is also needed, my 2 1/2 year old test mine every day.
2006-12-29 01:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think about 25-26 for women and 27-28 for men! not that solid but just assumptions!
2006-12-28 20:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by liliap60 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The couple would need to be ready. Stable physically, emotionally, and financially. It all just depends on the certain couple and their lifestyles.
2006-12-28 20:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If married at 18 then at the age of 21.39.
2006-12-28 21:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋