i met this man about a year now and he always tell me how much he loves me and i feel it but there is a problem i used to refuse to have sex with him but one day he forced me saying u are my girlfriend and we have to have sex and that's the day i lost my virginity.knowing that i was a virgin i thought i was going to be his only girlfriend but no there are other girlfriends besides me but i really love this man and i always call him to come and see me and he will do it when he comes he will tell me he loves me so much and we have to make love and have sex so my problem is i always refuse since the day he break my virginity i had never had sex with him coz i am scared that maybe he just want to use me so what can i do coz i love him a lot and he's always telling me that if i agree to always have sex with him everything is gonna be fine and i will be the only girlfriend of his cos he knows i am a good girl;
2006-12-28 19:57:19 · 21 answers · asked by richardsmercy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's obviously playing games. You didn't have to have sex with he guilt tripped you into it. Be real and admit at least a part of you wanted to sleep with him. If he can't even be decent enough to have one girlfriend (he's married, right? He shouldn't have ANY girlfriends!), you need to get away from him. If he's cheating on his girlfriends or wife with you, he WILL cheat on you if by some miracle, he decides to be with you. Anytime you get with a guy who is married or has a girlfriend is nothing but a dead end situation. Period. He's not going to change and he's only going to do what you let him do. Have some self respect and leave him alone. There are plenty of single guys out there, you don't need a married one.
2006-12-28 20:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you would just simply read what you have written and imagine that it is someone else that wrote it, you will see how obserd the whole thing sounds. This guy is an absolute creep who not only took your virginity but is treating you like an idiot... an you are letting him. I know it sounds like a cliche but you WILL get over him and when you do, you will feel a twinge of sickness everytime you think of him. Another cliche but a true one.. get some self respect. Don't be the silly little girl that he's taking you for. And think about it... you say you love him right? Well, would you sleep around with other men while you love him? Obviously you wouldn't and don't so by that logic, do you REALLY think that he loves you or even CARES for you? Bollocks he does!
2006-12-28 20:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, shame on you, for getting involved with a married man. And second off, you are just another free piece of *** for him, you are just another wam-bam-thank-you-mam. And He does not really love you, And if you believe that then you need to consult your local counsoler for some MAJOR MAJOR help!! Can you just imagine how many other side girlfreinds he has?? The way he is going prolly many, besides you and his wife. I would hate to have sloppy seconds, but if you want to be put second and have seconds off other women keep going, but If you get tested and find out you got some type of infection or STD and come on here askin about it, I will laugh my *** off, and tell you that you deserved it!! And if all he wants is sex, and says he will only love you and be with only you if you have sex with him then leave the damn bastard!! And as you are saying, he "forced" you in to having sex... if I may recall that is called rape. you are putting your self in a realationship, that is going to land in a dead end, and will have no way out. And if i was his wife and found out, i would prolly hunt you down and slaughter you, because you knew damn well that he has 2 kids and married!!
Why can't you people ever leave maried couples alone, and go find your own man.. perferably WHO IS NOT TAKEN!!!!!
2006-12-28 20:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some self respect sister!!!!!! Open your eyes!!!!!!! Gain some confidence!!!! Realize your true beauty & your true value!!! Get yourself a husband & 2kids & see how he adjusts!!! Just kidding on that last part obviously but SERIOUSLY!!! Get a clue! The whole "if we have sex all the time, blah blah blah..." is so unoriginal & displays his true character i dont even understand how you're not seeing all of this. You're blinding yourself 2the ignorance of this worthless jerk! I mean, the fact that he's married & has 2kids...what kind of husband, what kind of FATHER does that? That should be description enough of what he's all about. If he treats his family this way, the people he's supposed 2be committed2.. how can u expect him 2 be any different with you? You're his sex toy right now & nothing more, i can assure u of that & i nor any1 else has 2 even know u 2 see that. You're asking 4nothing but heartbreak & trouble if u continue on with this "relationship" (if you're really calling it that)
2006-12-28 20:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all....He is married, that means don't get involved.
Second, If he had to force you into having sex, that is rape, not love.
Third, If you are not "the only girlfriend" you wont be.
Finally, Get away from this cheating man before the wife comes looking for you.
2006-12-28 20:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by redy2screm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT? you're IN LOVE WITH A MARRIED guy? Come on, snap out of it. it truly is relaxing now simply by fact the youngsters are with the spouse while you 2 are playing. you're actually not in love, you're in lust and he too, with a spouse and a lover on the side. in simple terms wait till he divorces his spouse and he gets the youngsters on weekends, the different holiday and the consistent bickering between the ex spouse and husband. interior the top the youngsters will go through all simply by fact the adults can not save their pants zipped. the youngsters decide on their mothers and fathers greater effective than you pick an adulterous affair. So your contribution to the international is yet another broken homestead. solid activity!
2016-10-28 15:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to print out what you just write then you would clearly see your answer,if he loved you truley he would leave his wife,but he hasnt left his wife because he doesnt want to all he wants from you is sex no man who loves a woman forces them into having sex especially if he is married nor does he have other girl friends,i also think your to young or much younger than this man,you should just cut all your ties from him and move on
2006-12-28 20:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you need to write a long letter to his wife so that she knows. then you leave him and never see him again. Find some people you trust like your parents, siblings, or relatives. You do not want anything to do with this person. He is using you for sex, don't you know that? Guys are pigs.....I should know, I am one. But seriously, get away from this man as soon as all possible. follow the advice of everyone.....please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-28 20:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to have to tell you this girl but you are being used by a bastard.
Get rid of him tell him you never want to see him again and that you'll report him to the police if he ever comes near you or phones you again.
Tell him that you will never tell anyone of this affair if he leaves you alone but if he doesn't his wife will find out because someone will see you.
Your poor heart.
In future don't get involved with a married man.
Another way is to get a friend of your's to phone his wife and say that "You don't know me but your husband is having an affair with a poor girl who he is using. Please save yourself and this poor girl from him." then put the phone down.
He's a bastard, scum, slime of the earth and unfit to walk this planet!
2006-12-28 20:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a cheating dog.If he cheats on his wife what's gonna stop him from cheating on you? You just said he has other girls...And his "you are my girlfriend and we have to have sex" sounds like a line he is using on the others,he is manipulating all of you.Get rid of him.Suppose his family broke up because of you.Could you live with the guilt of being a homewrecker?
Good luck.
N.
2006-12-28 20:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋