Should I TeLL HIm?

Question

Ok so i have been in love with one of my best friends since i was 13 and i have liked him since i was 10, and being so young i was too shy to ever say anything to him so he never even knew i liked him but i knew he liked me...now i am 17 and i havent been able to see him for like a yr now cause he dropped outta school to work and plus he is with a girl he got pregnant....but i still am completely in love with him,he is my first love ..but there is this other guy who loves me and i love him too but i havent been able to get over the first guy and its been driving me crazy for so long and now i might be able to have a chance to tell him but i dont want to be selfish cause he is with someone else and plus there is an amazing guy who i know loves me...but i've regretted never telling him since i can remember and i have always said if i ever get the chance to tell him i would but i know its selfish, but i absolutely love him more than anything,i mean he is the one id give up my life for

so should i tell him???
i know he has someone else and the chances that he'd ever leave her as slimmer than nicole richie but im not asking him to do that....i just want to finally tell him....i mean would i be better off living my life in regret not telling him and wondering what coulda happened or regret knowing that i tried???

Answer 1

Well, I would wait until he was away from his girlfreind, and sit and talk to him, and tell him that your intentions are not to break up his realationship with his girlfreind, but you have liked him since you were 13, and that you have regreted not telling him this whole time, and that you finally got the nerves to tell him, and that you do not want to get in between anything, it is just something you needed to let him know, so you are able to lift the heavy weight that has been sitting on your shoulders for many years now. And as for the other guy, Wait to talk to the guy who has the girlfreind first. And if he leaves his girlfreind for you, then that is his choice, just make sure he knows that you have NO intentions of breaking them up. You should never hold back your feelings for the man you love, because one day it may be to late, and then you will really regret it forever!! I almost lost my chance, and it is one of the worst feelings in the world, but luckily, I was able to tell him in time. And the weird thing, is that all this time he felt the same way I did all this time. So you never know, Miracles come in odd ways!

Answer 2

i was in this same situation when i was 17
however a little less complicated.

the only thing that will really hurt you is the guy that would run away from whatever he promise this other girl to be with you.

the guy who loves you is what you need, we sometimes cant see that because grass is always greener on the other side.

just because you are in love, that doesn't mean its right for you. it is true guys mature so much slower than girls.

i know the more i say dont do it, the more you want to

my first love turn out to be my first everything. the first guy i fell for, the first boyfriend, the first one to have sex with me, the first one to break up with me, the first to get me pregnant, and the first one to leave me and break my heart.

and that other guy that loved me ended up with someone else

things can be so important to women like our first times, not always the same for guys. they sometimes are confused about what they really want, and that's how they sometimes hurt others, even the ones they love.

be smart give the guy that loves you your love and dont look back.

Answer 3

Sort of a weird problem you've got. It would probably make you feel better if you told him but, he is with someone who is pregnant and he has obligations to her. There's really no purpose in telling him because as you said yourself, he probably won't leave his girl. I'm sure one day the opportunity to tell him will present itself again and maybe that time, you'll both be single. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. Plus, considering all that's going on with him, if he did leave his pregnant g/f to be with you, that's a huge thing to deal with. You should probably just focus on the avaliable guy that's right in front of you for the time being.

Answer 4

There's a proverb that goes something like "Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."

I was in a similar situation recently, and decided to tell the person. In my case, it didn't work out very well, but I don't regret telling her for one second. It's a relief that she finally knows.

So I would say tell him. If it's driving you crazy, telling him would at least get it off your chest. And you never know what could happen...!

Answer 5

Let him go. He has a child. He has no future with no education. Just let it go....there are many great responsible young men out there just looking for a nice girl. Go and find one....better yet wait till you meet one in college.

Life is an experience not a destination. Don’t be so quick to settle down.

And don't settle for less than you deserve.

Answer 6

each and every so often sure each and every so often NO. being pregnant signs and indications are the comparable as signs and indications of a era coming so each and every so often it is totally confusing to tell. the very perfect thank you to renowned is to attend until a era is overdue and do a hometest. i became 7 weeks in the past i found out with my daughter I on no account felt unwell pregnant sore boobs ANY signs and indications of being pregnant yet, a + attempt. With this being pregnant in the past my era became due i felt warm, irriated, crampy, sore boobs, each and every thing smelled poor. All being pregnant are differnt despite if a women human beings is having no signs and indications and a era is overdue it relatively is optimal to attempt.

Answer 7

okay u know dat the other gurl is pregnet dat mean there is baby on it way and if there is chance that he would leave that gurl and the baby even if it was slimme like machise stick don't tell him but if u know that he's respanseble for he's baby from the other gurl even if he was with u tell him and get him i don't care about the other gurl i care about the baby that wat u should think about , good luck and god help u do the right thing , if u need any help or u think i helped u plz wright me that on [e-mail] .

Answer 8

If you tell him and he decides he wants to be with you, you could assist him in wrecking his family, what with a baby on the way, leaving a young single mother with a baby.

Let it go.

Answer 9

well if u want him to break up with her, and you want to be with him then you should tell him. But if you want to be with the amazing guy that loves you then you should be with him and not tell the other guy that you love him becuase that will cause problems and you shouldnt regret it, unless you want to be with him and you think that he wants to be with you. just dont regret it thats all

Answer 10

wow what a dilema i wish that i could tell you what to do,u but need to figure out what to do in your heart . i mean he has a kid coming and all ,and that kid needs his dad and all, but your heart is hurting and that isserious .. girl i feel ;for u but i also feel for the kid and his mom . just make sure you are clear about what could happen . love is hard sooooooooo hard .