I tried this phone dating thing. A couple of the women told me that I sound nervous. Being nervous kind of scares them away. This is one of the reasons I don't have a girlfriend right now.
Is there a way I can calm myself down?
Is there something I could drink, that's not alcohol?
2006-12-28 19:40:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
calm down.
she's not going to eat you if you say the wrong thing.
just breathe in & breathe out.
talk to her like she's "one of the guys".
only no farting contests.
unless she's into that thing.
drink a soda.
2006-12-28 19:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by manda_panda9642 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh. That is a really long story. But if it helped you get your feelings out, I have no complaints. Your not a whore, for one. Take a deep breath and relax. First off, be glad your ex broke up with you. Or else you would've probably never realized that you liked your best friend. It's not uncommon for a girl with a guy best friend to like him. But I think the reason why you kissed him was because your emotion was to such extreme you were in a way "blinded" and like you said didn't know what to do, so you did what your heart told you to do. I don't think a guy can fake an emotion like that and "play along" by almost having sex. And if he says he's in love with someone else, that is kind of an obvious answer. If he handled you so gently like you said, and you never had that sort of experience with a guy before, don't let go. I'd say let him know that you do like him. He will either say he likes you back or you both can remain just friends. There's nothing wrong with that. Besides I really think he likes you from this story your telling me. If he is caring for you when your upset and is holding you and hugging you, trying to calm you down, and even put a hole through a wall, those are some definite sign he likes you. Talk to him, don't be shy, but don't be too loud. Be your normal self with him like you always are as best friends. Hope this helps, and I hope everything turns out alright :) let me know how it goes
2016-03-28 23:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude...chill out for a minute. Lots of people are nervous when it comes to meeting people--it;s just natural--I don't think that's the reason women don't date you---first off, the phone dating scam is just plain stupid. Lose that idea---next--look at yourself and take care of your appearance---dress casual or at least as nice as you can for the area you live in. trim your hair and wash it. Brush your teeth, ---you know--look like a guy on the prowl--be smooth --you don't need a drink--hang out where people congregate--be seen and look interesting. Join a club or take up a hobby that gets you out around people---just talk--doesn't always have to be a female--talk to anyone--it''s called networking--before you know it, you'll be cool as a cucumber around people. Sometimes a nice girl just seems to pop up unexpectedly--that's the fun part. OK--get going,,,
2006-12-28 19:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a while or forever, stop watching movies and TV where women are objectified and practice looking them in the eye and talking to them. Once you start to see women as "just another person" in a female body, not as an object of your desire, its easier.
Don't care so much, try to be a little indifferent. Try not to think of getting into someone's pants with every conversation, or that there's some high stakes on the line. Treat the other person like another person, like one of your friends, with respect ... like a new friend. Ask them questions, get to know them, and get them to do most of the talking. Most women like to talk, so you're in luck.
2006-12-28 19:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason you're nervous is you believe the person you're talking to is out of your league (which is not good if you haven't even met them). ofcourse you drive them away becaue no girl wants to be with someone who is so low on confidence.
attitude is everything, and this is coming from a guy that is not the greatest looking. I used to think like you do, till it just clicked, and now i really don't care if the girl i just met will like me (sexually or physically or whatever). I just aim to be a pleasure to talk to, and if we click on that level, that's great, if not, life goes on. Try it and I guarantee you will find that girls find you much more attractive then.
2006-12-28 19:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by whoareyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, don't be nervous. The girl is probably as nervous as you too. Some people just know how to hide it better. Just be yourself, don't put up a front for the girl, or she won't get to know the true you. Just remember, she is a normal human being, no matter what.
2006-12-28 19:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Asia_Unscripted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink water!
It gives your hands something to do.
Try meeting girls in the normal old fashioned ways. Church, synagogue or whatever your religion uses for prayer.
You don't actually have to pray just turn up and look on the notice boards for dances parties trivia nights etc. then go to those
2006-12-28 19:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't have to drink anything to stay calm, just act normal and I am sure everything will work out.
2006-12-28 19:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by darshi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notice and Look at their Faults.
Pretend they are Not Attractive.
2006-12-28 19:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way, they don't know you, they can't even see you, why be nervous of somebody that u can't see.(they could be hideous anyway)
2006-12-28 19:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by sephra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋