I(21) don't know if I should have sex with my boyfriend(22) of 2 years, I am a virgin and I was trying to wait until I got married, but I love him soooooooo much and I just don't think I can wait. I haven't seen him in about 2 weeks because I am back in the US for the holidays and he is in Germany with his family(where we both live/go to college), and being away from him for just 2 weeks feels like forever. So, I was thinking about surprising him when I got back to Germany ;)
QUESTIONS:
1.Should I have sex with him ?
2.If you had sex before marriage, do you regret it ?
3.If you had sex before marriage did it make your relationship stronger ?
Other Details
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-We have been friends for 4 years
-We have been together for 2 years
-I am a virgin and he is not
-We have never had sex, we usually just make-out (alot)
-He has never pressured me about sex
Thanks for all your help and sorry it is so long :)
2006-12-28 19:28:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think he will love you less if you don't have sex with him? I had sex after my marriage. I would feel different about now.... now, but I trust her more. But If you ask me how I feel about it now looking back.... I did the right thing by waiting. And if he never pressured you.... just let it go. Sex does not make the love more or less.
2006-12-28 19:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by John Th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. An ice-cream taste very delcious if you eat it at the right time. The same goes for sex. I suggest you wait until you got married to have sex.
2. Yes, I'll regret it. Because you'll see everything in a different point of view once you have sex, once married or not. And you'll feel like you've lost your pride and dignity if the relationship didn't work after you did it.
3. It either strenghtens or weakens the realationship. If you really love a guy, that doesn't mean you have to have sex with him to prove that you love the guy. Usually people who do have sex before marriage, their marriage tend not to last longer. And if you have sex before marriage, after you got married, the "thrill" isn't there anymore.
Believe me, you should wait until after you're married. You'll save yourself a lot of regrets.
2006-12-28 19:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Should I have sex with him ? Only you can answer this question, my dear.
2.If you had sex before marriage, do you regret it ? Well, I'm not married yet, but have been with my fiancee for three years. He was a virgin before we began dating. It meant a lot to him to give his virginity to someone he loved so dearly.
3.If you had sex before marriage did it make your relationship stronger ? I can't say yes or no.
The only thing else I can say is --- it's your decision... you do what you want. If he's not pressuring you, you shouldn't feel so anxious about it. Obviously you mean enough to him for him to wait, so don't beat yourself up about it. If you feel comfortable enough, and YOU want to do it... then do it. If you're still doubtful, wait!
2006-12-28 19:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by tadp0le_143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you should or not is your business and nobody elses, but I'm sure you'll get both yes and no answers anyway.
I have no regrets and neither does my wife regarding premarital sex. We like sex. We've had sex with all of our boyfriends/girlfriends prior to meeting each other and neither of us would have it any other way. Problem is, it sounds like you've decided that virginity is more important than the pleasure of sex.
Our premarital sex with others made us better lovers for each other. You learn different things from different lovers. Can't say if it made our marriage stronger.
2006-12-28 19:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think that not having sex before the marriage is like when you buy the car without the probe drive. :)
Sexual contact is one of the most important facts in one relationship. That's the most beautiful thing that can ever happen to you. At most when you share it with someone you love. You know each other very well, and you are having long term relationship, as I can see. So, why not.
Believe me, he would be flattered :)
2006-12-28 19:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ivana M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is ideal to stay as a virgin. You will be excited to give it up the night of your wedding.
It took me six years to wait and I was so full of excitement during my wedding night that I had to do it every two hours for the next 24 hours. Believe it or not.
2006-12-28 19:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by ATIJRTX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u belong to a muslim family. ur religion does not allow any one to do any think that can create problems i ur life.dear friend i am not as much islamic girl but i think that this is not fair to do sex without any strong relationship like marriage.a girl rune her self by doing sex before marriage.as no one like her life partner of his llife.
i will advice you to not do so before you get marriage wit him.it is a period of emotional changes.as the result of emotional both boys and girls are attracked by such things.control ur self and live a happy life.
2006-12-28 20:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by straight hair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't reveal my personal history but I can confidently advise you that you should try before you buy (it works both ways, folks)
2006-12-28 21:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by kewtber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has never pressuerd you about it
maybe he respects you and your feelings about
having sex before merriage!so dont worry.
2006-12-28 19:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Laura L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.No
2.Yes espsecially if you break you an marry someone else
3.No
He he really cherish what you have to offer he will wait to marry you
2006-12-28 19:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by SONNY_D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋