My mom who recently wrote me an 11 pg. letter telling me how lousy of a daughter I am, I wrote her back a nasty email then she sent me back an "i'm sorry" card. Should I still be mad or should I get over it? It has happened more than once...
2006-12-28 19:19:28 · 13 answers · asked by 1982 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If she's just going to do it again, dump her forever.
2006-12-28 19:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very sad for the fact that your mum wrote you such a letter, stating you being a lousy daughter, this is a terrible thing for her to say about her own daughter no matter what has happened, she should support you and help you if you have made any bad choices in your time but I think it is so much better for you to forgive her and try to get close to her. Accept her email of apoligize. Life is too short.
2006-12-29 03:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by llilcasper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey, i am so sorry that u have had to go thru this. I have a fair idea of what u r going thru, and I have this to say: letting it go without resolving it can cause more problems. your friends can say things that you wont let your famiy get away with and that is because they tend to have more power to hurt you than anyone else. Yes u should try to let it go and forgive. maybe u can re-read the letter and see if she has any valid points (no matter how trivial it is) and try to make urself a better person. make it a learning experience. if the problem escalates, try counselling. lots of places offer free counselling. just go online and find out where in your community. oh, and by the way, watch it with the nasty emails. they always come back to haunt you.
2006-12-29 08:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Nicci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I feel really sorry for your mom that she goes to so much effort to insult you. Something must really be eating her up inside. You should definitely forgive her, but you should also get help to overcome the kind of damage that this abuse is surely causing you. I recommend that you speak with an ecclesastical leader and/or counselor. And you might want to see if you can figure out a way to help your mom, too. I can think of a couple of different psychological problems that could be making her lash out at you like this.
2006-12-29 13:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Should Just Get Over It, If You Said You Was Sorry Already Then You Shouldn't Worry About Anything, But Take That Advice If She Forgives You!!!!!
2006-12-29 03:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ April; MX4LIFE! ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, time to realize your mom is a person with faults and insecurites of her own; likely she is projecting some of that on you.
I'd say get over it, but if you can't, maybe just not talk to her for a while. And when you do, lay out the terms of acceptable communications.
Don't know the details of your letter, but I'm sure you can say "Mom, I won't allow you to criticize me about XYZ anymore." I love you and I always will, but if you want to be part of my life, you need to accept me as I am>"
Something like that.
2006-12-29 03:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you care about your mother, which I assume you do because you are still talking to her. Stop what you are doing is it really worth having bad vibes with her? I don't know your situtation but if you care about her stop going back and forth playing tag. If you show her you stopped, she will stop. You both will see what is important and what is not. You need to make the first move because if you don't it's just gonna keep going back and forth and lsometime sin life we don't really have much time to play games. All the best.
2006-12-29 04:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by GlitterRain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you have this problem with your mom I think you guys should seek some kind of counseling together whether it is spiritual or psychological good luck
2006-12-29 03:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by william_callen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to get over it, but you probably won't. You can learn to be the better person though and forgive her. Accept her apology and accept the fact that it might happen again.'
Ditto...life's too short.
2006-12-29 03:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by patty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
old saying - you can pick your friends but not your family.
Unless you Want to live up to her idea of a daughter, forget it.
Life goes on and her problems are her problems. Live up to your expectations for yourself. I think that called Be true to yourself.
2006-12-29 03:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Carl P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad does the same things kicks me out of the family then apologizes.I just let it go they are family after all
2006-12-29 03:23:57 · answer #11 · answered by Normefoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋