iam gettin married to a muslim man that i love.but he dont want 2 quit drinking aft marriage,n i cannot force him to..he said that time will come when he will quit for good.I love him n he loves me.. what should i do.. i believe that Iman & Solah is the pillars for a happy marriage...
2006-12-28 19:17:33 · 9 answers · asked by Asha 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why is he drinking in the first place? Why does he feel the need to drink? What time is he waiting for? Maybe if you try to talk to him openly why he feels the need to drink, you might get to the underlying problem. Thank God Insha Allah one drop of alcohol has never passed my husbands lips. I would remind him sister of Allah's teachings and remind him he has to answer for his sin. Remind him that life is short and he could be gone tomorrow without having given it up. Ask him is it fair for him to burden you with this worry. Please resolve this issue before you marry. If he has a drinking problem he like any other alcoholic could still be saying 20 years from now "I swear to you, I'll give it up when the time is right" Sister there never is a right time. Please Insha Allah ask him to speak to his Imam try to get him all the support you can and Insha Allah you will both be free of this soon.
2006-12-28 19:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
hey try to convince him on any ground to quit drinking.....Thats not an islamic act, harmful for soul and body togather, you know this drinking leads a person to many sins, specialy when he get out of control because of excessive alcohal.I m sorry but i call overdrukend person as 'animal', yes that person is not less than an animal., make your own choice sister, i feel that such person hardly realise human values(sorry again)
secondly he has a great risk of getting body damages especialy liver, are you ready to see him an ill person after few years.life would be even more terrible i can bet..
calculate yourself, first try to get him quit this, if u are failed then, keep everything in your mind...and use your brain instead of heart while making a final decision
Good Luck !!
2006-12-29 03:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if his drinking is not problematic why should he not drink? If he does not over indulge there is no problem and he's not commiting a sin......contrary to what some say the Qu'ran does not ban alcohol just discourage it.
If he is a social drinker there is nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with having some brews among friends...however if he's one of those who can't go through a day without a drink, then you better have him seek help, before it gets out of hand
2006-12-29 03:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Darkness 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know from personal experience, if you expect him to quit... he won't when you want him to. He may quit 20 years from now... but not when you want. If it bothers you that much (and if you're a good practicing Muslimah, it should) then you should not marry him. Drinking becomes a friend that is super hard to let go. The person has to be willing to seek help (like from AA) to get over it... it's next to impossible if he doesn't want to. He said a time will come when he quits for good? that good be on his deathbed! then he's quit for good... for sure!
2006-12-29 03:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mustafa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you believed in the teachings of Jesus like you say you do you wouldn't yoke yourself together with such a person.But I am not your Muslim Friend.
2006-12-29 05:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say leave him.
but you know how the way he could treat you if he is drunk , its really dangerous to let him do.
you can advise him to go to any center that might help him to quit drinking!i f he really loves you he have to listen to you to put a good and a strong base to your marriage .
i suggest that you have to pray the salah al-istekharah many times before you accept him .
may Allah help you .
2006-12-29 03:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Alone 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I thought muslims are not supposed to drink? When a man said wait for "that come will come", this time will never come.
2006-12-29 03:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Tan D 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well, make him quit drinking BEFORE you get married otherwise it's up to you to live your life with a drunkard.
2006-12-29 03:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
peace upon you
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2006-12-31 01:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Marzouk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋