I like this guy that goes to my dance studio,he came a few months ago.He´s really open and we talk and hang out a bit before classes.Before we closed for the holidays we were going to go to a concert together,so I got his number,but the concert got cancelled.We went out though for some coffee yesterday,I asked,and during the first few minutes he said that he broke up with his gf 3 days ago.Then for the next hour he told me everything about her and the ``break-up´´.From what he was saying he didn´t want to get back together with her,and was frustrated but nevertheless he was upset with all of it.(They had a 3month relationship-he´s 21,she´s 17-and she called it off..)But then the rest of the time that we were out we were making each other laugh,and talking-we have a lot in common.Now not only do I wonder if he sees me as more than a friend,but since his ``wound´´ is still fresh don´t know if it´s right to even try to persue something.What should I do??
2006-12-28 18:36:03 · 10 answers · asked by allstar86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you might turn into a rebound for him... operative word here is might... and you have to decide if that is okay or not... that's not to say that rebounds can't lead to anything... and that's not to say that you want this to lead to anything...
you sound interested in him. why not? both types of relationships (rebound, non-rebound... and there are others surely) can work... eh... nothing too major to lose. it's up to you.
sounds like you have some things in common and already get along great. that's a nice start.
2006-12-28 18:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by justwannaknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a "true confessions" guy. Wants to get it all out in the open (recent dating history, current status) from the get-go. In my experience, this is not a terribly bad thing as he is it least attempting to be honest with you.
Now, are you just a temporary fix for him? Possibly. But that's okay. Sounds like you are young enough to have fun and let the cards land where they may. At the beginning of most relationships things are fun and flirty, which may help him take his mind off his recent break up and you may have a little fun, too.
Rebounding is only a problem if you get wrapped up in each other too quickly. Otherwise it's called reinventing yourself which can actually be a good thing.
2006-12-29 02:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by artichoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be the rebound chick. His ex was probably a rebound to they didn't last long.You should let him pursue you. So u know for sure he is into a relationship not just a hangout partner.
2006-12-29 02:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just be his friend to begin with and if it goes somewhere in the future then good luck, as for him telling you about her and the break up he obviously needed someone to talk to and feels comfortable with you so stick around and be his friend anyway.
2006-12-29 02:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to be careful. He may be on the rebound. Keep him as a friend for now & see what happens
2006-12-29 02:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by twogris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u shud definitely pursue it as being friends at first and then in time he will heal and then u can go for it completely!
2006-12-29 02:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by ayounglady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him heal, and if you guys make eachother happy, go for it.
2006-12-29 02:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by cpn' jackk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-12-29 02:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by maggie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep on dating the guy.
2006-12-29 03:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it but take it very, very slow.
2006-12-29 02:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋