my mother in law is mean and self centered can anyone help me to deal with her?

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and thanks guys for helping me out

Answer 1

Can you please give some specific examples and any clue why she is this way...is it with you or many people?

Answer 2

The best thing I would suggest is to just avoid her and let your husband know about her actions and how they make you feel. Ask him to talk to her about how any disrepect that she shows you, she's showing that to him as well, and that you are his wife, and she is his mother, and that even the bible says that a man must detatch from his mother and father and cling to his wife, just as their husbands did for them. Marriages dont invlolve 3,4,5 people only 2, another piece of advice is to maybe avoid her if you are not feeling comfortable around her, your husband should understand and accept it, you may feel as if your mother in law is probably going to feel alot happier about that idea of him being around without you there, just think about the fact that at the end of the visit she'll have to say bye as he goes back home to you, good luck, I suggest that if you have any venting to do about your mother in law that you visit www.ihatemyinlaws.com, the people on there are great advisors and everyone on there has their own issues with their inlaws that you can look at. Good luck again

Answer 3

Dealing with her is not the problem, you should get her back. Do you watch home alone 3? if so take some of the tricks that the little boy did to the bad guys, make that witch suffer. I always wished to have a stepmom to make her know how hell would be.

Answer 4

That is a deeper issue than what you are posing the question. It could be just a simple fact of jealousy. But to truly answer this question you would need to be more specific. Sounds like you are a little heart broken right now.

Answer 5

I know what you mean.I keep my in-laws a distance.And I don't hardly go around them.As,They are always Having-Drama and problems in their lives.And I don't like being around all of that.So,I'd say Don't go around her or call her very much.My dad has been so mean to my husband of 7yrs.That he's no longer welcomed at my house.When all my husband has ever tryed to do was to get along with him.

Answer 6

properly, for having a classic "considerable different's mom from Hell", you have the suited difficulty conceivable--help out of your husband. He is conscious what she's like, and he's prepared to tell her she's out of line. he's amazingly stable--it truly is totally fortunate for you. you're unlikely to alter her. the only issues you're able to do is save making her behave, as your husband is doing, AND, substitute the way you, your self, react. She's a nutjob. handle her as such. No, i do no longer mean be impolite in any thank you to her, I mean, take regardless of she does with a grain of salt. anticipate her to do the nutjob stuff. do no longer take it for my section--you probably did no longer make her that way, and you will't restoration her. She's little doubt handle any DIL like this. Be satisfied the adult adult males in her circle are sane and prepared to take her on. call your sister or chum and giggle over "loopy Janet" memories.

Answer 7

First thing don't lower yourself to her standard.Have you ever seen monster-in-law. You will have your moment to get back at her.You should definitely tell your husband how you feel.Ask him to support you more verbally when she is around.If her behavior becomes outlandish than stand up for yourself. Just make sure it's in your house so u can kick her out.

Answer 8

I have a mother in law like that too! You can't change her. You can only change yourself. Try to ignore her if at all possible!

Answer 9

Yeah block the bit** out of your life, I did and my life was very peaceful when I let her back in after she changed alittle she went back to the same old shi*.

Answer 10

JUST AGREE WITH HER, TO KEEP HER HAPPY. BECAUSE REMEMBER THAT SHE GAVE LIFE TO YOUR HONEY. BE SMART AND KEEP HER HAPPY AND ON THE LONG RUN SHE WILL TALK REALLY GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOU AND IT WILL AFFECT YOUR LIFE IN A GOOD WAY.
OTHERWISE IT WILL BE THE CONTRARY AND THAT MAY CAUSE A DIVORCE IN YOUR MARRIAGE

I AM SORRY TO TELL YOU THIS BUT MY EX-MOTHER-IN-LAW BROKE MY MARRIAGE BY TALKING BAD ABOUT ME TO MY EX-WIFE AND ENCOURAGE MY EX-WIFE TO LIVE ME AND DIVORCE ME AND SINCE THEN MY EX-WIFE HAVE REMARRY 3 MORE TIMES BECAUSE NONE OF US COULD AGREE WITH HER MOTHER.

TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK
AND JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART

Answer 11

Smile, always be polite, and try to keep communication down to the minimum. Sorry, there is nothing you can do to change her. Most of all keep your cool.