Now, I'm a nice guy. With that, a stereotypical view of me probably enters your mind saying "he's just a shy loser". No, I don't have self esteem issues, and I'm not shy. So tell me this, Yahoo! Answerers, why is it that women go after the cocky asshole that ends up going into an abusive relationship. I've heard answers like "Girls just like a challenge" or "nice guys aren't interesting", and I really wonder, why not? What makes nice guys so damn unattractive or not as interesting as some guy who won't notice them? Oh, and I've also heard answers like "They want to change the cocky guy into someone more like me", so please, try not to put these quoted answers in your answer.
2006-12-28 18:18:31 · 8 answers · asked by wizard of stealth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a side note, I read JHMHSI's answer, very informative, but who's to say that a nice guy (myself) isn't the kind of rocker kind of guy?
2006-12-28 18:47:38 · update #1
*shrugs* They're hot. Period. Nice guys give off a warm, cute, fuzzy vibe, which I don't really care for. I tend to associate the term "nice guys" with "happy-go-lucky," "sensitive," and "sunflowers." I really don't gush over that crap... images of striped shirts and semi-gelled, spiked up hair with a wholesome American smile pop up, and that just doesn't do it for me personally. I mean, it's nice if THEY'RE nice, but I need more than just that! Someone dark (Gothic/jrocker... mmm), hot, androgynous, open-minded (in general and in sex), and witty is perfectly fine for me. Some babyface, dimpled guy who looks like he won't hurt a fly just won't compare to someone like Criss Angel http://cdn-14.cdn.buzznet.com/assets/users12/luvsthemarc/default/msg-115205052379.jpg in our minds... or at least in mine. I sure as hell don't fantasize over the former.
Same thing goes for girls... (hey, I told you I'm open-minded; I'm omnisexual).... why go for the cute, innocent, Southern girls with wholesome American smiles when you can go for someone sexy like... (from The L Word - Shane McCutcheon) http://leztime.canalblog.com/images/shane.jpg or someone more international like Marina (also a character on The L Word) http://blogs.salon.com/0001883/images05/Marina.jpg ? No way some innocent little **** is going to dominate me...
Basically, it's aesthetics first, personality later... or possibly never. That's reality for the majority even though so many denounce this selection process as shallow and superficial... some mean it, but most are just hypocrites.
2006-12-28 18:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
For some girls, it may be a reflection or reaction to their perception of their own family. They simply may not know HOW to deal with an emotionally healthy male., having never been exposed to one. Or, they might feel their family is too deadly dull (especially the younger singles). They are likely to equate excitement with "challenge".
For others, it is just a matter of experience and maturity.
In a way, the why does not matter. You are obviously waiting for the right girl. Good for you!!
2006-12-28 18:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The women who say those types of things only look at you phyically and nothing past that. In which case you don't want them anyway. In my opinion nice guys are the ones you go for. When you meet someone or describe yourself to someone don't describe yourself as a nice guy though. Say your a nice guy but say it in a different way just to shake things up a little.
2006-12-28 18:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lovergirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for all women, but I like a "gentleman" who reserves their little "naughty" side just for me. : )
Cocky abusers? Some women think that is exciting at first, but deep down they know better. Keep on being you. Some woman will be mature enough to see that a decent man is what she "really" wants and needs. : )
2006-12-28 18:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's so much as girls liking nice guys or not as much as it is finding that one person that's right for you. Love is a dynamic thing that goes further deep than just being nice or not. For me it's more about finding that right girl who likes you for you and nobody else. My view of love and all that is that on this big vast planet we call earth, everybody has a perfect match out there somewhere waiting to be discovered.
2006-12-28 18:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by terran_ghost 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
a gal wil alwayz lik a nice guy if she wants 2 b in a long term relationshp.. but if she want 2 hv fun den frgt it darling.... dey want dose cocky assholes fr dat.
2006-12-28 18:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys can find girls too. My husband is a nice guy, and I wouldnt trade him for one of those jerks anyday. So, see there are some women who like the nice guy.
2006-12-28 18:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by acestjohn 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i would also like to know the answer to this "Q" even tho, im a bad @$$ in the army, and one cocky mother fu#@er
lolz
2006-12-28 18:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋